i have known this girl for a year. i am like in love with her. she is beautiful, has the most wonderful personality. she doenst know that i like her. to me, i feel that she is one of the most wonderful person i have met. and i want to be with her. so i went out to zales and bought her a necklace. then a note telling her how i feel about her. i plan to give this to her during school, on the last day that we are there before we go on x mas vacation. i just want to kno if this was a smart way to do this.
2006-11-30 17:30:17 · 12 answers · asked by onwnewkid@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In the future, tell a girl you like her BEFORE buying any diamonds.
You want to know she likes you for YOU, right? You want her to want to be with you because she actually likes you... not because she feels obligated due to a pricey gift... or because she's hoping to get more pricey gifts in the future.
You should ask her out for ice cream or coffee and see how she feels about you before you give that necklace to her. If it turns out she just wants to be friends, you can save the necklace for someone in your future or return it to the store if their policies allow. If it turns out she is interested in you and enjoys spending time with you, then you can still give her the necklace.
2006-11-30 17:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by sueflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Slow down the love train dude! Get her the necklace after you are together, nothing is creepier than a guy who gives a girl a diamond necklace for no reason. Take the necklace back, buy flowers, and use the rest of the money for a nice night out for you two. She will like that a lot more than a necklace.
With the money that is left over from that, use on yourself for a video game or somthing cool!
2006-11-30 17:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by hey2a 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Whhhoooaaaaaaa there buddy!! Lets back up for a second. Indeed, that sounds very romantic. Almost like something from a movie. But, those things happen in movies for a reason: to entertain our imagination. So, unless you're super rich, dead gorgeous, and extremely charming with a winning smile like Tom Cruise, you should perhaps have a back up plan in case the necklace doesn't work on her. --Essentially, what I'm trying to say is that, you're letting your fantasies about romance carry yourself away into very deep waters. First off, a gift like that might get her attention, but she might find it extremely charming or extremely naive & unusually creepy. With most women, you cannot win their hearts with money. Not especially if this girl is as special as you say she is. It would be more prudent to talk to her first to see if she even likes you or she is even single for that matter before you throw your heart out like that. It would be a lot safer and cheaper, I garantee. A much more romantic gesture would be for you to buy her just one rose and approach her to introduce yourself. At least try to get one date with her before you spill your guts to her. ;) Good luck.
2006-11-30 17:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by haithere_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hold off on that. What if she doesn't feel the same about you? Then you don't have the girl or the necklace. I would personally feel freaked out if someone got me that. First, tell her how you feel and if you get into a relationship, give it to her the following Christmas. For now, get her a cute teddy bear and some lotion.
2006-11-30 17:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by *~*~*~* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be pushing it. If some random guy came up to me and gave me a diamond necklace and a note proclaiming his love, I would feel so awkward. Can we say stalker?
Besides, even if she did like it, do you really want to start out giving that expensive of a gift? She's going to just use you for jewelry! Some girls do that sort of thing.
Also, cowboy up and just ask her out in person. Don't use a note. What are you, 7? "Do you like me? Circle yes or no." Pfffft. Just go up to her and ask her out on a date. You don't even have to tell her you like her just yet. Just ask her out on a date. See if she has plans for the weekend, and if she doesn't, ask her to go have dinner with you somewhere.
2006-11-30 17:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whether it was smart or not doesnt matter. you made a decision and are very brave for doing so. its good to express how you feel,just remember she might not feel the same. it seems like your jesture is about you wanting her to know how you feel about her.keep that in mind. give her the gift,and i wish you the best of luck!
2006-11-30 17:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by fac3d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you overdid it. Some bad girls I know would take the necklace and sell it, then laugh at you. The good girls would get freaked out and think you're weird. Either way, you lose.
2006-11-30 17:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please do not give it to her until you find out if she cares for you. You can give her a card first to tell her, but hold onto the jewelry and receipt in case this doesn`t work out.If it does work out, give it to her for Valentine`s Day. Good luck.
2006-11-30 17:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't spend that much on someone unless we already had a serious relationship. But I think it is a nice thing to do, and she will have no doubts about your great feeling for her
2006-11-30 17:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by lefty 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this was an incrediably sweet way to tell someone u feel about them but im worried about how much you contribuated finicially, but the way you describe your feelings for here it seems you really care for her i wish you the best!
2006-11-30 17:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by ELLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋