I'm 18 and have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 and 1/2 years. Recently i inherited a house and some money from my grandmother. I am moving into the house soon and would really like my boyfriend to live with me as well but my dad told me he would never forgive me if i moved in with my boyfriend before i was 21 (??). Even before i inherited the house my boyfriend and i had talked about getting an apartment together. I really think we are ready to live together, and it would also take a lot of weight off his chest. He has to be out of his house by June and it is REALLY hard finding an apartment here (Katrina affected area)... I just dont want to jeopardize my relationship with my family. What should i do?
2006-11-30 17:10:04 · 6 answers · asked by Katie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Those of you who say you should get married before you live together (i'm really not trying to sound rude here) i think you are absolutely crazy. I would never marry someone without living with them first. there are so many things you can learn about someone... anyways thanks for the replies.
2006-11-30 17:20:22 · update #1
Your 18 do what you want...Dad will get over it...
2006-11-30 17:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. I don't know if it is a religious thing for your parents or what. I am a Christian but I am very liberal I guess b cause I'm young. Maybe just tell your parents it is for financial reasons like having a roommate so that you can have help with the utilities etc. But you are an adult and need to make your choices not your parents. But you should know that the longer people shack up the less likely for them to get married. They just get comfortable that way. Also once you move in together you are more likely to get pregos so get on birth control if you're not already. One last thing, if you move in together you should have him sign something ( get it notarized) saying he won't try to take your house if you two break up b-cause in some states once you live together so long he has rights to the property too just like in marriage.
2006-12-01 01:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar Plum Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait a while before letting your BF in though since the house was your grandma. Your dad may be right because it is not a random house, but basically belongs to your family. Even though you are entitled to the whole house, but if I were you, I'd respect the dad a little bit by waiting.
On top of all, if you BF really loves you, he can wait. I dont even think it is a big deal not to live together. He definitely can wait. In your case, if he doesn't understand the situation, it really shows something in him and you should be glad because this is a very good lesson.
2006-12-01 01:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened to marriage before living together??? I know you're young but if you are old enough to live with some guy you supposedly love, why aren't you old enough for marriage?
2006-12-01 01:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then I guess you have to make a choice: your family's respect and pride, or bailing out your boyfriend and shacking up out of wedlock. Which matters to you most in life?
2006-12-01 01:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait til your 21. What's the big hurry? It would be good for him to stand on his own 2 feet, rather than depend on you.
2006-12-01 01:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋