next week i have a presentation about this topic..please give me some ideas or your expriences. Thank you very much
2006-11-30 17:06:48 · 19 answers · asked by camay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes it's a regret sometimes it's not
my first time is a big regret i was really drunk and my lovely drinking buddy knew i was and he gave it to me against a rock on a beach a little ways down from the bonfire we were at... (i'm so classy huh... ya i'm ashamed a lot of lots of things i've done or not stopped)
where as premarital sex with my currnet guy i dont think would be a regret cause well i care about him
i feel as long as you care about the person why not express it... but he HAS to respect me before i jump into bed with him i mean if the respect and love are not there not goin at it
(ya i bet most people who see this will think...slut but i dont care really if i have those feeling i dont see any reason for holding em in... i guess i may feel a bit different if i had ummm chosen to give up my virginity... not just been a drunk youngin who was taken advantage of by a sober guy friend... )
2006-11-30 17:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by arei 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am Christian and was raised to wait until marriage for sex. I was raped by a family friend at the age of 14 and did not tell anyone for a few years. To this day, my family does not even know. I am now twenty years old and had sexual intercourse for the first time at the age of 18 with my fiance (we are not together anymore). I believe that if I wasn't raped, I still would be a virgin until I am married. Since my fiance broke up with me (about a year ago) I have slept with four other guys as one night stands. For me, it was since I had started, I found no reason to stop...even if my religious beliefs tell me otherwise.
2006-12-01 01:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mia Anne *6.6.09* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, research about abstinence. Lot of people say that premarital sex is bad, but who can really resist? There is always lust in the air, and sex is the best way to get rid of it fast (or increase it, it can go either way). My opinion is that premarital sex is well, bad. I don't think it's right that people have sex before they are married. I thikn it's also bad that the people that are commited to abstinence break that promise and have sex anyways because of their temptations. This can go either way, but that's my opinion.
2006-12-01 01:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Justin L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well me personally, I'm saving myself until marriage. I know that is pretty rare nowadays.. and some of my friends think it's pointless... but I have made a vow to myself (and to God) a long time ago, and I intend to keep it. It's one of the things that makes me me, one of my values. And to lose it I don't think I would think the same about myself anymore. I think it's better to wait, definately, because sex is very special and intimate, after all, its how we are first put here on earth in the first place. Who you sleep with is a subconscious attraction to who you can see yourself with for different reasons. I don't believe in abortion as a way out, so if I got pregnant I would have the child, and I much prefered to be married. Also I think it's pretty special to just save it for the one person you know you could be faithful with your whole life. :)
It's hard for me.. I broke up with my last boyfriend because even after I had talked about it (and he said he felt the same) he kept having condoms in his wallet, and he would say that his dad MADE him buy them and carry them around. I mean I know it may be different with guys, but the fact that he kept thinking I might change my mind made me realize he can't except me for me therefore it's not meant to be. In time I know I will find a guy who will respect my choice. I don't see why people feel that sex is a norm in all relationships, because in actuallity, a relationship should revolve and start on so many other things, otherwise it's very likely to die quickly. But hey, everyones different, and this is just the way I feel. I am proud of it, and I think it's great to wait. I don't care if my next guy isn't a virgin, as long as he respects my decision to wait. :] So... those are my thoughts on it.
2006-12-01 01:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by genuine♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was a virgin at my wedding at age 38. My Husband was previously married but was also a virgin before he married and was celibate after his divorce and before our marriage. We have been married 17 years now.
We now have full trust and confidence with each other and have worked out our differences. Abstinence before marriage has created a binding trust and love that will last forever.
2006-12-01 01:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by Monita Marler 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was raised to believe it was wrong, but my own opinion is that it is ok. Just like living together before you are married, what if you find something you can't stand about being together, it is better to find out and break up then get a divorce, especially when kids are involved.
2006-12-01 01:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by nystateofmind8989 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its like the divorce rate you have a 50 /50 chance of getting married from having it . I dont support it anymore because it hasnt gotten me anywhere. Men actual respect you more when you dont...
2006-12-01 01:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go for it.......you never wanna have any regrets once you get married and are committed to someone. The more experience you have the better for all.
2006-12-01 01:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by Holly G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you buy the car BEFORE a test drive?
2006-12-01 01:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is absolutely wonderful!!! there is nothing wrong or bad or dirty about sex!!---sex is part of life--a very good and important part---wether you are married or not---how are you to know if you are compatable sexually if you dont have sex before you get married???
2006-12-01 01:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋