how does a single father get over his ex"s issues and start dating again?

Question

single father that loves his son and wants to spend more time with his son. but the mother will not allow me to spend any aditional time with him. so i have to much time on my hands. but want to start dating. but cant find the right one.

Answer 1

All i can say is the best thing to do is date around you may not find the one but you wont feel alone either. Its eaiser if you go out and look and when you least expect it someone will show up. It takes time.

Answer 2

First and foremost, if you want to see your son you can go to court and submit a petition for a visitation schedule.

Legally she cannot keep him away from you.

If you truly want to be happy you must start from the inside first.

If you are feeling stressful about your ex you must dig deep and stop letting this bother you.

It is important to change your mindset before you can change yourself. Focus on something that makes you happy.

Dig deep and find out why you feel the way you do. You will be surprised how much stress we cause ourselves by the way we think.

Secondly, it is going to take time for you to find the right person. With this in mind, don't rush or look. Take your time and meet and get to know people before you date.

Third, make everyday a great day. Live your life to the fullest and don't let "life" get you down.

And lastly, keep a journal. Writing is such a relief. It gives you a chance to vent and find your true "self" at the same time.

I hope this info has enlightened you and has also given you encouragement as well as a sense of hope.

God Bless...and stay encouraged!

Answer 3

No. 1 - Don't spend so much time on Yahoo Answers.
No. 2 - Get yourself involved in outside activities. Things you've never done before, bowling team, ice skating, ski club, scuba diving., dance classes, volleyball, etc. So you can meet new normal people. Stay away from the bars....only losers there that you wouldn't want to introduce to your son.
No. 3 - Find new things to do [see No. 2] that when you are with your son, you can get him involved in also either now or when he gets older.
No. 4 - Yahoo games has some interactive games wherein if your son is old enough, you can set up an account for him and yourself, teach him how to play the game when you are with him, then, when you're away from him, you can play against him while you are at home and he is at his home. So...you could still spend time with him. Some of the games you can block out other internet players so only the two of you can play.
No. 5 - Does he have an email? Do fun things with him like write a story. You start with the first paragraph....tell him to write the next...then you, then him...etc. You will have fun writing a story that you both can share when it is done.

Bottom line - get involved in group sports or outside activities that as he gets older the two of you can share. In the mean time...meet new people.

Good luck and God Bless.
I know it's hard. I was a single mom who had custody of my children and also had custody of my niece, but had to work so much to keep us going that I felt that I was losing them. Grandparents practically raised them...but they ended up beautiful, loving, giving children. Keep in touch with him.
He needs you.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like your break up is still pretty fresh. Breaking up is hard to do even when you hate her guts. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is to play some basketball or join a gym and treat yourself to an hour or two a day of forgetting about this miserable situation. Don't be depressed, sooner or later you'll maybe meet a nice woman who appreciates the good in you.

Answer 5

don't force the issue just bide your time and the right one will come along.it seems the harder you try the worse things get,i know from experience.

Answer 6

keep looking and u'ill find someone soon