I'm absolutely wild about her, but I want more time to enjoy hobbies and take on personal projects. She gets upset if I don't see her every day. I haven't seen my friends in weeks. If I don't see her she panics and thinks I'm cheating on her. I don't want to leave her, but this is really driving me batty!
2006-11-30 16:37:28 · 11 answers · asked by Zloar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously, she's wild about you, too! You really need to make it clear to her, though, that you're wild about her, but she is driving you batty. Just waht you said here. Being in a relationship should not require that you relinquish your entire pre-relationship life. One and one don't make One.. One and One make two, each with their own minds, lives, and hobbies.
If your relationship with this girl is really new, she'll probably mellow out with time, as she allows herself to relax and trust you. (that may be a major issue with her.. has she been wronged by "mr. right" in the past? Make sure she's not judging your character based on the behavior of someone else entirely.)
If you've been together for a long while and she's still demanding, possessive, needy and clingy, then it's very unlikely to improve, and the only options are to either a) end it or b) get couple's counseling.
If you do get your own time for your hobbies or projects, keep in touch with her by doing meaningful little things.. send her a silly email card that'll let her know you're thinking of her, even when she's not in front of you. Stop by and leave a love note on the windshield of her car. Drop in on her unexpectedly, just to let her know you still care.. stuff like that. (as Donkey said in Shrek: "Chicks love that romantic crap!")
do your guy friends have girl friends? Are there any things you could ALL do together? (ball game, movie, dinner, anything to get you some guy time, but also to let her know she's welcome in your world... know what I mean?)
Hope that helps. Take what you need and leave the rest. Best of luck to you both.
2006-11-30 16:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Chrome Toaster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
-_- wow I call him my "personal drill sergeant" and he calls me his "hot, salty surprise"; you know, just the regular nicknames guys have for each other. -_- She's also upset because she's caught us showering together several times. Doesn't she understand we're trying to conserve water? -_- She doesn't like that we leave her home with the kids while we take off to the beach for the day, either, so one time we let her come along, then had the nerve to be upset that we made her put her blanket a few hundred yards away from us! -_- She claims that even from that distance she could see us giving each other massages, but I TOLD her that for suntan lotion to work, you have to work it in for at LEAST an hour! -_-
2016-05-23 07:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell her exactly how you feel about wanting some time to yourself to do other things. Reassure her that it is not because you are tired of her or don't enjoy her company, but you have a life outside of her. Do not let her control you!
2006-11-30 16:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Freedom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to control you. Nothing can make life worse then a controlling person. Everyone needs their own time to do things they enjoy. No one should give up their friends to please another person. That person should respect you enough not to try and make you give up friends. Sounds like she's very insecure and that can be a real problem. Not one your going to like in time.
2006-11-30 16:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but as much as you are wild about her... she will blow it for herself with you eventually. I can make all kinds of suggestion, but ugh, I honestly dont think there's anything you can do! It's only a matter of time... SORRY!!!
But I really hope I'm wrong! But, I'm usually about 99.99% right all of the time! ;)
2006-11-30 16:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by ALEGNA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you guys talk about personal matters maybe she's going through some things or maybe you just need to ask her why is she so clingy....better to hear it from her than assume
2006-11-30 16:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a new relationship? Why would she think you are cheating? Big warning signs here--this chick is insecure.
Do you like each other's friends? If not--move on.
2006-11-30 16:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by realjustice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what my uncle did. He put his own obituary in the paper!!! Worked well---no more clingy girlfriend! Just please don't let your folks find out by the neighbors like he did. Best of luck!
2006-11-30 16:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by TS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u are a guy put your foot down and be a man not a sissy
2006-11-30 16:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by NOT IN USE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her along and meet your friends, introduce her to your hobies
2006-11-30 17:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋