the reason i ask this is because i am 27 and there are so many times when i am not at all interested in having sex with my husband. i mean when we do have sex, its great but i just dont want to do it that often and my husband thinks it is something he is doing when its not him, its really me! any advice on things i can do to put a spark back into wanting to be intimate with him more?
2006-11-30 16:34:00 · 6 answers · asked by Misty 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
What kind of diet do you have? While many people are on low-fat diets, and that is good for you to a point.... some fats/cholesterol are needed for a healthy libido. Vitamins can help if there is something lacking. Also.... consider some natural products that are known to be aphrodesiacs, such as ginseng and chocolate. Guys react to the smell of oranges.
Romance and physical closeness is important. Cuddle together and lead into it gently, so you don't feel pushed or rushed.
I know that when I was married, I was busy all day with the kids, housecleaning, cooking, and other activities. I got no help. Then, when we went to bed, he expected me to just turn on the sex for him. That turned me right off.
What worked for me was the times when we were watching a movie and cuddling together and I could relax and enjoy the physical closeness. I'd get to the point of wanting sex then and could respond to his advances.... or make some of my own!
You need to discuss with your husband exactly what you feel and what the two of you can do together to help you feel more positive about it more often.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-11-30 17:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Misty,
Intimacy is a great deal of work, if the spark is not there.
I once had a male friend that was facing a similar issue.
The couple came up with this solution: Once a Month. Worked for Him, worked with her.
My other friends put a Yes or a NO note under the other persons pillow...smiles. Needless to say...The NOs won...2 to 1.
My last desperate suggestion here is this: Look very pretty one evening......Look at your self in the Mirror and say...wow, I am very Lovely. See if that works...Keep us posted, please.
Good Luck.
2006-11-30 18:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to be more sexually active. You say you are, so what's the problem? You don't need to be doing it every waking moment. We all have our own 'clocks' so to speak. Men seem to want to have sex at the drop of a skirt, women are more discerning than that.
Go with what feels right. Maybe you have a full life, are tired, what does he do to help out? Look at your life honestly. Like most women, they don't have anything left at the end of the day because they are doing everything. So, get him to do his share and maybe you won't be so tired/stressed/preoccupied/uninterested.
2006-11-30 16:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been havindg a similar problem for the last year..ever since i had my son.... all i can say is when my husband goes for it .. i usually enjoy... although he has to get past all my hemming and hawing first..lol... maybe haveing a glass of wine together and watching a movie or something will help... i am more receptive when i am relaxed but still have some energy left... if only a little..lol
2006-11-30 18:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a better looking husband.
2006-11-30 16:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave your husband :)
2006-11-30 18:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lithium89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋