I put him in playschool, but the teachers are telling me he's been pinching the classmates who won't share toys with him. I've tried to talk to him, but he doesn't want to remember it when I ask. How do I stop this behaviour? And how will I know it worked? Thanks.
2006-11-30 16:33:18 · 10 answers · asked by mazzy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
take away one thin that he love ex: personal toys, ask hem to stay in the corner for 1 minute gains the wall not in his room, turn of TV, radio and stay close to hem, like in the kitchen and next time 2minutes and 3 ,4,5,6,7,8,9
and after you go to the corner and toll him way he is on the corner ,and say the next time is going to be anger.
and absolutely don't laugh be serious.
2006-11-30 16:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by old spice user 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, does he do this at home? If so, you need to pinch him back. And do it hard enough to let him understand what he is doing to the other children. When the teachers confront you about your child pinching other children, you need to take him sit him down and tell him you need to stop pinching other children because this is what they feel, and pinch him. When ever you punish a child you need to let them know, first, what they are getting in trouble for, and then repeating the actions that they are doing to the other children. It will take time and he will cry, but do not cuddle him after you punish him. It will only make him think that it is ok for him to continue to do it.
2006-12-01 00:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know if I tell you not to be upset it won't work, but lots of kids go through a bullying stage.
What if you ask you son to tell you 3 things he did that day to be nice to others whether at school or someplace else. Tell him that you will kick a soccer ball around with him or read a book or something if he can name at least 2. Really play up the positive stuff and how proud you are. Do not focus on the negative for a while. Have older children tell him about what they did to be nice to others as a role model. They will love to help you. See if he starts looking for ways to be nice to people.
2006-12-01 00:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by CAE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teach him to bite. No, seriously, I've heard that pinching him back won't work, but I don't know, you could try it. But you will need to enlist his teachers help. He should get a time-out (1 minute for every year old), and it will be especially effective if it occurs when everybody else is doing something fun (like playing outside or finger-painting). Explain why, and they will need to be consistent. He'll figure it out.
2006-12-01 00:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by terri m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. but ask him if he thinks it is nice to pinch and hurt others. Ask him if the people he pinches will like him. and want to be friends with him. He needs to originate that pinching people is not in his best interest. he need to realize for him self that he need to take responsibility for his own actions. Do not assume that he is too young to understand that. he is not too young. he is almost too old .
Suggest you teach self reliance. now at age 4 is when has to understand these things. never treat him like a baby or tell him he is too young or too small. that puts in negative thought in his mind
your job as a parent is to prepare your child for life. Your child is not your possession, someone to control. if you attempt to control your kids they will only rebel. if you teach self reliance teach by good example. they will not need to rebel. also do not punish. teach your child to be responsible. because what ever they do they do to themselves.this is how i brought up my kids . They never rebelled. both were able to be on their own at 18.
as responsible adults. again self reliance
2006-12-01 00:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pinch him when he pinches others. Try taking his toys away for his behavior at home.
2006-12-01 00:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by TS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My nephew used to pinch. When he pinched me, I pinched him back--hard. He never did it again.
2006-12-01 10:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pinch him and then remind him this is why you don't pinch others....so they don't feel the pain that he feels at that moment.
try and do it similar to how he does it at school, play with him and all and then pinch him.
think simple......chicken had 2 spots....one shocked it and one gave it food....it learned after the 2nd peck which one not to touch.
2006-12-01 00:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pinch him.
2006-12-01 00:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mittens?
2006-12-01 00:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋