I broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago and now I am having doubts about whether or not I did the right thing. He treated me great, however, and this is the horrible part, he really isn't that smart. It's not that he's dumb, he is just very uneducated to the point where he can't even read very well. I am in college, getting a degree and for some reason this bothers me, I feel like I can't have an intellectual conversation with him. There are other minor reasons that led me to break up with him, but this was the main one. Am I horrible? When I say it out loud, I feel terrible, but in the end, I want someone I can talk to about intelligent things....
2006-11-30 16:25:14 · 16 answers · asked by ashlee85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not horrible. I dated women who were not college educated for most of my 20s. Fixed up with a woman who I knew of in college but didn't meet until I was 30 she 28.
Fell in love, she was college educated, things were going fine untill I realized she has zero common sense, zero "street smarts", and is basically conceited when it comes to dealing with those who didn't go to college. (Her parents paid her way).
I'll bet this guy might not be book smart but probably knows a heck of a lot about the world and has a ton of common sense. Just my experience with guys who might not have had the interest or opportunity to go to college.
Get married and have kids, you know what you talk about??? Baby going poo-poo, baby saying dada, mama. Baby did this and that. Wife and I haven't had an intellectualconversation for 8 years. We go out on a "date" to reconnect and we sit there and talk about our kids. AAARRRRGGGGGG. You're not horrible.
2006-11-30 16:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a horrible person. I hope you didn't tell him that to his face, but I guess he deserved a good explanation. I think a lot of girls just want to be taken seriously and since we're so good at talking, it's how we bond. If we can't talk, we can't bond and the magic in the relationship is lost. You're not a horrible person. you just want to find a guy you can connect with on something other than a physical level.
2006-11-30 16:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by iambic_chatterbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! i don't think your horrible at all! if i felt like i couldn't have an intellectual conversation with someone then i wouldn't! it wouldn't be worth it to me and in the end when the doubts are gone you will feel better that now you can find someone with intelligence to match your own!
2006-11-30 16:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The difference in education is a big one. When I was in college and dating someone who never went past high school (he did graduate) I was also told by an adviser it wouldn't work out. I went on to marry him but the differences were too great. I held it together with him for 13 1/2 years and I realized I wasted the best years of my life on him. I was sad but I hope to never make a mistake that costs years of my life. Because I couldn't make it work with my ex doesn't mean It would be the same for you. Use your best judgment. Every situation is different.
2006-11-30 16:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by already_enuff_spice_in_this 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you go out with him in the first place? Was he smart and then became dumb? No your not horrible. Better now then when your married with 2 kids.
2006-11-30 18:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are horrible only if you told him that you were breaking up with him because he was uneducated. Do not go back to him. Set him free to find a new love who will love him for himself and maybe even a little motivation to go on with his education.
2006-11-30 16:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look jap, and characteristic a swatsika on your call Ahh, you comprehend in WW2 Nazi-Germany and Japan never coordinated any military or political manuevers for the duration of the conflict. They have been purely linked with one yet another, no longer a real military alliance. They the two considered one yet another inferior additionally.. So, why do you have a swatsika after your jap call?
2016-12-14 10:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not horrible. But I hope you did it in a nice way and remain respectful and nice to him. The fact is that your relationship would go nowhere if you don't respect and admire him. You are smart to let him go now and let him have a chance to meet someone who truly loves him.
2006-11-30 16:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u might have done something right in the long run. personally, i value intellectual conversations and understanding a lot. u may regret now..but maybe not in the long run. take ur time to think through
2006-11-30 16:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him and want to be together, advice him to continue his education, go to college or something...if he loves you back he'll understand and do it for you and your future together...
you are not a horrible person...we all need a lover, a friend and someone to talk to.
2006-11-30 16:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋