2006-11-30 16:07:46 · 40 answers · asked by olin1963 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the biggest advantage i could thing of is regret
u elope= you'll regret it.
when will u regret it? when your firends got married the old fashioned way and they show you pictures of their wedding or you go to their wedding and you'll think "man, why haven't i done it this way"
2006-11-30 18:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by chapped lips 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two stories here. I've been married 3 times. I've had two large weddings with family and friends. The third time my husband and I eloped. The elopement was wonderful, exciting and something neither of us has regretted at all.
Planning a wedding is tiring and costly. I did it. I enjoyed it. But, I spent more time planning the one day than we did planning our lives together. Not good.
Eloping...we planned it for 7 months...but still, we did it and told no one ;-).
I'm also a former wedding planner of more than 15 years. So many couples, I saw, lose the romance, the friendship between families and each other over the planning. All for one day. And, the cost - horrible. Families are raped by the excess fees. Who on earth would ever pay $30, 50, 100, 150 per person for a boneless breast of chicken, filet or whatever in a normal restaurant???? No one.
You want to have a party - have a party. But have a party thats fun - not a wedding party.
I've about seen it all over the years and the most enjoyable weddings were the ones where they were later in the evening and only hors d'oevers were served - no dinners. But the best - were the elopements. I also helped plan those as well.
2006-11-30 16:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you really want. The wedding is for the memories and usually the couples families. I had the wedding the first time and just went off and got married the second. Boring as it may sound I like the elopement best, lots less stress and the money you save from the big wedding can be used towards something you'll really need, like a down payment on a home or something like that. But it really boils down to what the couple wants not what the parents want
2006-11-30 16:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The main advantage may be the major disadvantage: lots of people, some random. I enjoyed my wedding, which was a large one with friends and family. The benefit is that we have a great memory that we share with an extended network of folks, so our special day means correspondingly more to those we care about. If we had eloped, we wouldn't have that. On the other hand, my wife and I would have something very special just between us. You should consider how you want to remember your wedding.
2006-12-08 15:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by zuqaqipum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have a legitimate experience to account when your kids ask about how you and your spouse met and how you got married. And you set a better example for them. Because if you elope, they can easily use your elopement as an excuse to elope. And it gives you and your spouse an opportunity to have a day dedicated to just the two of you and your love. And you get gifts from friends and family (including money). And you get to plan the wedding together, which is a bonding experience in and of itself. Is that enough?
2006-12-07 19:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I've been reading in this forum, weddings cost anywhere from $10,000 to $100,00 today and for what? Some presents that don't come to anywhere near what you have shelled out and believe me, the guests won't remember much about it a couple of years down the road. Instead, take your wedding money and book a cruise for yourselves, your parents and a few other treasured guests, get married at sea and celebrate your b ut ts off for a week....now THOSE memories will last forever! Pictures will be your only added expense because on a cruise, the food is included. No need for fancy clothes or flowers either when you have a gorgeous ocean and some fabulous sunsets for your decor.
2006-12-01 10:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by jidwg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the reasons of having a wedding is so your family and friends can celebrate with you. By witnessing your ceremony, and celebrating with you at the reception, you are being welcomed into the community as a married couple. I personally think it's selfish when couples elope... they should want the opportunity to have all the love and good wishes around them on their wedding day.
2006-12-01 01:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion eloping is cheaper in the long run, but honestly, getting married is a life changing thing. So having a wedding is a way to share the experience with your family and friends.
Plus, you get gifts and you can get all dressed up and crap
Choose the wedding!!
Good luck!!!
2006-11-30 17:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The advantages are looking back and sharing your moment with those in your life that mean the most to you. If you are worried/nervous about the cost or stress of a "big traditional" wedding, it can be done cheaply with very little stress.
My wedding was outside at my aunts house. We rented tables and chairs, did our own decorations, ordered the cake and my family helped out with all the food. It was the most fun I've had in my life. My husband and I have great memories and we talk about wanting to do it all over again. The day flies by.
If you do decide on a wedding with your family, dump the stress. I've never been to a "bad wedding", so really there is nothing to worry about. If something does happen, it'll add character to your day. My husband got nervous repeating his vows; he said about half a line, blanked out, and just said "one more time, Grandpa" (his grandpa married us!). We still laugh and it made the moment more perfect than we could have planned!
2006-11-30 17:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have the best of both worlds... an intimate destination wedding. This way you can elope and just invite the close friends and family that you really want there. This way, it can be simple and fun. No big reception, just a simple ceremony and an intimate dinner afterwards. Then everyone can enjoy the destination as their own vacation as you start your honeymoon.
2006-12-02 14:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by LeeLee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, they are endless!!!!!!
1)Your family gets to see the bride walk down the aisle and is apart of the happy day.
2) The couple gets to look back on beautiful pictures or videography of a happy family occasion full of laughter, love and life.
3)It's a good way to get the family together especially with those you haven't seen in a while.
4) The bride gets to strut her stuff in front of a large crowd.
5) The preparation of a wedding lends the chance for the people involved to bond and enjoy the PRE-wedding memories.(shopping,parties, dining out, rehearsal dinner, etc)
6)You get to have a reception after the wedding at which people shower you with LOTS of gifts!!! (everybody loves gifts!)
7.When the bride and groom get wedding cake on each other's faces, everyone will see it and laugh. UNFORGETABLE!
8. Your uncle Joe can give a 15 minute speech half drunk, standing on top of a table, wearing his prom tux from '65.
9. Your wedding reception will provide the chance for someone's first kiss/dance.
10. You spend lots of money on this one day and then realize the next day you can't get it back.
2006-11-30 16:23:20 · answer #11 · answered by zabeeday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋