we had been making out for hours in between talking, laughing and having a great time. things starting getting very heavy. this girl seem special and i didnt want it to turn into a one night thing or get weird etc, I pulled away a bit and said....
"i think your really cool, id rather not rush things."
she told me she wasnt trying to jump me or anything she just liked being close and touching me.....
i told her i liked her doing that too and we were back making out....]
question is.... while i realize i probably could have had even more "fun" , was that a really good mood or a really bad move in regards to her and what she will think?
2006-11-30 16:01:06 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
depends what is she like. if she is a serious girl , who doesnt want one night stand, she'll appreciate your move and know that you respect her a lot, and want something more than just a lusty relationship...
2006-11-30 16:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how far she went with her make-out session. If he was fingering her, especially if he was a little rough while doing so, it may be from a minor abrassion, it may even be possible that he broke her hymen. If she hasn't had penetrative sex yet, it doesn't mean that she isn't a virgin anymore. Many women break or stretch their hymens before they lose their virginity. It is also possible that she has had some spotting. Either way, it think it is important for this young girl to have someone who is a little more experienced with these sorts of issues than you. If her mother does not have the time or the inclination, perhaps she should entrust these sorts of questions with a trusted aunt, doctor or school nurse. While I am sure you are a great friend and babysitter, I don't think you are equipped to advise her on these matters.
2016-05-23 06:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll think it's great IF you actually follow through and show her that you really do like her and want to see her again, maybe develop a relationship with her...best thing to do at this point is ask her on a nice date that doesn't involve making out (at least, not until you've done a couple of other things, like dinner and a movie or something). I guarantee she's sitting at home going, "What did he MEAN when he said that?" so call her as soon as you can--let the girl know you really do like her and you really are interested!
2006-11-30 16:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you did a good thing! She will respect you for saying that to her. Now she knows you like her. You did continue to make out after you said it right? Don't get all weirded out. Be proud of your self that you did the right thing, especially if it was the first time you were with her. Take it easy. Have you talked to her since? If so how was the convo? If not call her and see from there. No need to bring up what you said if she is willing to talk and hook up again that will be your answer. Good Luck:-)
2006-11-30 16:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was the best move a guy could make!! You just showed her that you didn't want to force her into anything that she didn't want to do and that you care about her. The last thing a girl wants is for the guy not to care and only use them to get into their pants and then say goodbye and they never see them again!! You didn't spoil the moment at all and I bet she would of told all of her friends what a sweet guy you were for taking that into consideration after the situation that you's were both in!!
2006-11-30 16:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by pqr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so proud of you!! Finally, there's a guy out there who has some respect. In no way are you a p**sy (like someone on here said you were, don't pay attention to them) for saying what you said. I would have been extremely impressed. After reading what you said, it didn't sound like just a "good move". It sounded like you truly meant it and that makes it that much better. Cool.
2006-11-30 16:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a bad move, or at least bad timing. But afterwards, when the heat of the moment was over, she probably gained a lot of respect for you. I think you made a lifetime partner, when she realizes you did that so you wouldn't chance losing her.
2006-11-30 16:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Speedbuggy43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, that was a good move on your part. I've done that many times, like making out with a girl for a long time, then telling her I would rather fool around than have sex. Personally, I like fooling around, making out etc. than having sex, because sex gets things really complicated. Only on one occasion was I making out with a girl, and that eventually led to sex.
2006-11-30 16:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great. It shows her u have alot of respect for her and don't consider her to be a "one night stand" girl that u will never call again. She should feel special.
2006-11-30 16:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has the same goal as you do, and she sticks around, it was a good move. If she starts acting funny toward you, she is not the right one and you should consider yourself lucky. Good luck.
2006-11-30 16:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋