You are on your first date with a cute guy that you have a little feeling for him & you don't want to have the first kiss necessarily on the first date cause it may leads you to have sex stuff after. You don't wanna look cheap or an easy to get girl so you prefer not to have sex at the early stages of dating guys.
Besides, you might be a friendly person & have a lot of conection with this guy. Guys might offer you to go for watching a DVD or something at their place but how you can go there just for watching the movie not anything else?
How can you make a guy to wait for having sex for a month or so and you don't want to lose the guy for any stupid reason!
2006-11-30 15:54:34 · 14 answers · asked by ELK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That easy...TELL HIM you'd like to wait awhile. If he's the right guy, he will be kool about it. If he's a jerk about it then he just made things VERY easy, LEAVE HIM!
Good luck, there's still a few "good guys" left out there.
:)
2006-11-30 15:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Boodie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to each his/her own but i don't agree that sex on the first date cheapens us female. As long as the attraction is mutual and both parties wanted it. if the sex is good, doesn't matter whether it's the first date or the 5th one, the guy knows and i don't think you will lose him. I did not and it gets better and better : )
i believe that if the sex is great then maybe it's worth pursuing the relationship and see how things can develop from there and if it's lousy, do you still want to see this guy. Alright sex is not everything but it's definitely something in a relationship.
i think the key here is not whether to have sex on the 1st date or not...the question is really what do you want for yourself and from the guy? And if you are not comfortable to have sex with the person that you are seeing, be honest and talk to each other. His reaction will tell you if he only wants you for sex or something more...
2006-12-01 00:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by labrin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you prefer to wait a while to have sex, not forever..just a little while. If he ditches you over that then he obviously never wanted you for the right reasons and you would be better off without him.
2006-12-01 00:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by LiLMaMa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok.
Forget about those those other comments, their perverted idiots. Just because you go out on a date with someone, doesnt mean you have to have sex. Thats not how it works. Ok a kiss on the first date is pushy as well, you shouldnt feel uncomfortable with the person you are with, if you are then you are not ready to be dating or hes a scum bag. On your first date if he tries to kiss you then just tell him, "I dont want to go to that stage yet" If he gets mad, or looks disapointed then honey, he never liked you to begin with, he just wanted sex. Its all about you and how you feel, if he has problems then you need to leave him.
Sex is not something that everyone does, its something that happens late in your years like college, NOT high school. If you are exposing yourself at young ages, you are calling yourself a Slu* and no one will like you, they will use you for sex.
Like i said its all about you on dating, when you are ready to try something you will know. If you feel uncomfortable then dont do it, If hes continuously talking about sex, or sexual gestures, then hes a pervert and only wants sex. Im betting that is exactly what is going on, hes discussed it with you several times, and you are worried or curious about it. Dont do anything that you dont want to do.
P.s I suggest dumping his pathetic ***.
-James
2006-12-01 00:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by jameswilliamlong 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just tell him everything you wrote down here. He should understand perfectly if you let him know. Talk to him...Real relationships are based on honesty. Emphasize that you want a solid, real relationship before you get to this stage.
If he really cares for you, he'll wait for you. If he doesn't, then he just wanted sex and nothing else.
2006-12-01 00:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by Shiomi Ryuu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, kiss boys you trust and think are nice people. Then try to wait until the end of a date to kiss them for the first time, like a goodbye kiss. I also try to talk to guys before things get too hot and heavy about how I like to take it slow - and how I like them and want to wait before moving too fast. My guy friends say that it is hard for them to know what girls want, and thats why they can get frustrated when a girl tries to slow things down in the middle of things. So they like it to know from the start how much a girl wants to do with them, before they get all excited and crazy.
2006-12-01 00:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can just plain make out for a long time. If he tries anything, just tell him you don't want to. Making out is plenty fun.
Conversation is more interesting than DVDs. Why would you want to have sex with someone you can't have a conversation with?
2006-11-30 23:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by mgdavis1981 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would perfer not kissing on the first date. If you think it is going to lead you to have sex then try doing other things like hugging, giving each other a massage, or sitting close to each other.
2006-11-30 23:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by yonji 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Why u want to prevent urself from sex ? what's wrong with sex ? Sex is fun as long as u protect urself.
2006-11-30 23:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you should be glad if a guy want to have sex with you for the 1st date, it shows you have the attrativness.
2006-12-01 00:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by vertigo 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋