You are on your first date with a cute guy that you have a little feeling for him & you don't want to have the first kiss necessarily on the first date cause it may leads you to have sex stuff after. You don't wanna look cheap or an easy to get girl so you prefer not to have sex at the early stages of dating guys.
Besides, you might be a friendly person & have a lot of conection eith this guy. Guys might offer you to go for a DVD or something at their place but how you can go there just for watching the movie not anything else?
How can you make a guy to wait for having sex for a month or so and you don't want to lose the guy for any stupid reason!
2006-11-30 15:52:45 · 35 answers · asked by ELK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep your legs closed???
2006-11-30 15:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by georgiabelle87 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying, in this regard, men? We suck.
We rush into sex, we are rushed by our friends into sex, its all about the conquest.
SO, how do you 'kill the conquest buzz' and still keep the guy?
There is no magic wand here. As a matter of fact, in your quest to keep your values, you WILL lose a guy or two. But guess what? That's the good news. Those lost were worth losing.
But, the advise I offer you is to simply say, "I really would like to kiss you, but only if you can handle that being it for now"
You must do this BEFORE the kissing starts so it can be seen as a step forward. Otherwise, the thoughts of 'next step' would have already taken root and your comments would be percieved as a step backwards.
Communication is the key. And remember, if you lose them, you didn't want them.
2006-11-30 16:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by websco137 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my mom always used to say "Guys will repect you more if you wait" But i know for a fact this isnt true. Some guys will dump you if u dont put-out, some will hang in there, and then there's the ones that say they got it when they didnt.
Your best bet my dear, would be to keep your kisses more lady like, that way neither one of you will get all worked up. Or better yet, dont put yourself in such an intimate enviroment so quickly, keep the first months' dating events to public outings and such, where you and your friends and him and his can all just hang out. Hope this helps some, gosh I can't believe i sound like my mother...yukkk!!!
2006-11-30 16:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I first want to congratulate you on having such self respect. Not a lot of girls do nowadays.
Second, you just simply tell the guy you want to get to know him and why rush things. Sex is so complicated and has so many feelings. If you have sex with him right away you will only feel terrable about yourself and risk looking easy to him. He probably won't concider a respectful relationship with you.
If has any respect for you or himself as well, he will wait. However, loosing a man for abstaining from sex if far from stupid.
2006-11-30 15:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but I think noone should have sex on a first date! You dont even know the person how could u do something so personal within hours of knowing them! If you do want to kiss on a first date, just have it be short and sweet. Guys love it when you give them a taste and end it..they will be dying for more! So just be yourself, dont be too promiscious and have fun.
2006-11-30 15:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by SweetieBear20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Body language is your best defense. If he offers to get a movie at his house...you say cool we can watch it at mine or my friends....or where ever.....If you are in a room together there is no law saying you have to sit right next to each other. Playing board games or making a meal together the list is endless....
When people have down time because they lack communication sex is usually what comes fore front. If that pressure comes to quick your desire is misguided. Honor should always rule when in the company of a Siren....meaning him...be direct about your intention it is merited...I would love to spend time to get to know one another .....so if I seem stand off ish I just move very slow....truth from the start leaves a promising future...
2006-11-30 16:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by wonderiswithin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be dating or at lease work on self-respect if you cannot stop yourself from having sex with a guy after kissing him, I don't care how cute he is.
Most guys don't continue a relationship if sex is offered on the first date. some will continue the relationship to continue the sex.
F**k what the guy is thinking, what are you thinking, let him wait, who cares if he thinks it is stupid.
work on your self-respect and your self-esteem before going out again.
2006-11-30 15:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my husband this one. He said to tell the guy how you feel at the begininning of the date. That you like kissing, but at this point you just want things friendly, not hot and heavy. Tell him you want to save anything else for later, when you feel a relationship is possible.
2006-11-30 16:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont do it i mean thats the only way just avoid the situation and explain that its your right to wait i would wait awhile a guy can hold out i swear im one the longer the beter but not like a year with him i mean so much is so much bont lead him on thats wrong and only promotes sex some guys just wanna have sex with you and thats it <<< best answer
2006-11-30 15:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by deadman_2000_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite him to your place alone, or go and spend time at his place alone, unless you are prepared to sleep with him. All guys interpret being at home alone with you as an invitation.
Keep your dates in public places, at parties etc. It's fine to invite him to your place to meet your family, but not when you're on your own. Don't invite him to your room or agree to go to his.
If a guy is going to dump you because he has to wait, then he's not serious about you anyway - so you're better off without him!
2006-11-30 15:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I. Don't go to a guy's place on a first date
2. Tell him you don't kiss on a first date.
3. If you are so weak, you would have sex just because he kissed you, you shouldn't be allowed to date.
4. Add the word "NO" to your vocabulary.
2006-11-30 15:57:16 · answer #11 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋