my boyfriend is really abusive sometimes, he puts me down about my career path, and my weight, he gets these really bad mood swings, but sometimes he is overly nice and does really sweet things for me.. how do i break up with him when he messes me up wit nice things once in a while..
2006-11-30 15:46:51 · 14 answers · asked by ladiilovee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its really simple. end the relationship while you can. trust me...was there and done it. its not a life to live. once someone is abusive- and it doesnt matter if it is physically, emotionally, or mentally- they are always abusive. they never change. that is a very hard life to live in that manner. you never feel like anything. you may hurt for a while but in the long run you will be better off....trust me with that one. im sure you are a beautiful person and have a lot to offer to someone. when that right someone comes along you will definitely know it. you want to be someones everything all the time. you were not put on this earth to be treated lke that by no one. get out and end it while you can. if you wait....the longer you wait....the harder it will be. and it may even be to late then.
2006-11-30 15:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by dana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It Depends On How Abusive He Is Because He May Be So Obssesed With Controling U That He Get More Abusive If U Tell Him Its Over Make Sure U Confront Him U Have A Male Friend With U Or A Cop Or Something Because It Sounds Like This Is Something U Can Do On Your Own!! Make Sure U Tell Someone Whats Going On Because If U Dont It Will Only Get Worse!!
2006-11-30 16:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by ColoradoGuy21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 01:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disappear while he's at work. Don't tell him where you are. Don't go to your parents if they're in the same city with you. Don't go to your closests friends if he knows where they live. The most dangerous time of your life is when you try to leave because he will feel a loss of control and be worse than ever. Have a place ready to go, or a bus ticket to get far away. Sure he is nice sometimes, no one is 100% bad, but he uses it to manipulate you into staying. If you go while he's in a good mood, it will take him longer to get suspicious and come looking for you. Don't leave a note or anything. Good luck.
2006-11-30 15:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him about how you feel. I know how hard it is to break up with someone you care about so deeply, but if you know it's the right thing to do, everything will work out in the end. If he's a little abusive now, think of how it might be if you guys ever get married...
2006-11-30 15:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by laurencharlene1018 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe the easiest way to break up the relationship with him is to talk to him about it and explain what you really feel about your relationship with him..If talking personally will make you feel weak and it might be hard for you to say things, write a letter for him and put there all your feelings.Its a great way for you to said to him all of your feelings without giving him a chance to interrupt you and hold you again.I know it is very hard for you to do this because you love him, but always leave enough love for yourself so you could live again without him in your life, than having a life with him without some love for yourself (because you will have low self esteem and low confidence everytime he will said rude things about yourself). Saying those things is not healthy for you, it could destruct your own self image and just leave without some self satisfaction on yourself.If he really loves you then he should not be like that.Love is good and not rude, and love could make you the best person not the least person in this world.After you said your feelings to him in your letter, at the end tell him that you love him but its not enough for you to stay in this relationship, because you need also to be loved by him, you need to feel the real meaning of love from him, and he cant show him to you, so time could just tell if the two of you are meant for each other, and tell him to please respect your decision for the good of the both of you.Hope i helped you somehow, dont worry love will bring the best for you, just be good also to yourself and learn how to let go of the person you love because its the only way for him to see that youre a very precious person to take care of and not just to ruin of.
2006-11-30 16:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up face to face, do so in public or at home with parents around of some friends for back up. No one should EVER let someone put then down it just shows how badly they feel about them selves. He has problems and needs help. Get out and good luck. You need someone to support you and dis you.
2006-11-30 15:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry sweetie, if a man is abusive to you and anyway the best way to leave it to leave. If someone is in love with a person in no way they will abuse. He'll tell you all these lies and hope you believe them. Go for your career let no one stop you...
2006-11-30 15:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by izzo v 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the overly nice thing is Guilt . Sounds like he has alot of problems going on inside of him. Tell him you need your own space ..WITHOUT....him in IT...if this fails....get a Judge to grant you a restraining order.
2006-11-30 15:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got a real winner there...abuse does not equal him loving you, dear. Dump the douchebag and find someone that will accept you for YOU, and that will not punish you for it.
2006-11-30 15:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by coffeefreak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋