1 year anniversary?

Question

tomorrow is me and my boyfriend 1 year anniversary, well i was so happy this meant so much to me.. i even went out and bought him a gift that was over 200 dallors.. well we had plans to go to dinner and then to the movies, well today we got in a LITTLE fight and he said that he doesnt want to do **** for our anniversary now.. well this is the thing he never seem to happy about it anyways i had to make all the plan and he only got me roses and a bear.. and he already gave it to me.. now we are not even fighting and he still doesnt want to do anything.. im confused why he is acting like this. and it makes me mad that he is just smiling in my face, plus i act like its ok, but if he knew me he would know there was something wrong????

Answer 1

well, i thnk that you shouldnt get too attached to him. im gonna guess that you are young, and he is one of your first serious boyfriends, trust me, its not worth it, if he doesnt seem to care, then you shouldnt either. and if all he got you was a flower and a bear(so cliche) fark him...

Answer 2

And you are still with him because???

Ok, jessica, hunny, I just read all of your questions. Your boyfriend abuses you physically, mentally and emotionally. You were pregnant with his child and he tried to force you to get an abortion...did you? It sounded to me that you wanted to keep your baby. He makes you starve as a form of punishment! Sweetie this guy treats you like sh*t and you don't deserve it!! He is an arrogant, cocky, a*sshole and you need to leave him ASAP! You cannot stay with this guy, he will end up killing you and this is no joke. I was in an abusive relationship so you need to trust me on this one. Call the police, get a restraining order, move out of his house NOW and do not look back. I know it seems like the hardest thing in the world to do right now and you feel so much love for him and you just want him to change so badly, you would give anything for him to change but hunny, it won't happen, I promise, it won't. No matter what you do, he won't change. After you move out and the relationship is ended and you have a restraining order, seek counseling, you will need it because this guy has messed with your mind and emotions for so long, you are gonna be very confused and messed up. I know this is going to be hard but you have to trust me on this one, you will be so much better off without him and one of these days you will find a real man who treats you like a woman should be treated, like a princess or a goddess and he will love you and take care of you and it will be that very moment when you will ask yourself why in the world you wasted a whole year of your life on such a loser when this guy was waiting for you the whole time.

Answer 3

I think you need to explain to him what your feelings are in a calm way. Don't be angry or demanding....concentrate on how you feel not what he has done or not done to make you mad.

i.e. "I really feel that our anniversary is important. A whole year of going out is a milestone. I would love for us to spend some romantic time together just the 2 of us for our anniversary."

If money is an issue, remember that you don't have to spend a lot of money to celebrate or be romantic. Plan some activities that aren't expensive. Making s-mores in a backyard fireplace (I have used a barbecue and it works!), putting on music and sitting away from each with each writing a letter to each other about what you mean to each other and favorite things that have happened during your year together, make a list of things you want to do during your 2nd year, make a cake or favorite treat together, etc.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Over $200 for a BF ?????? R U NUTS!!! It is only the 1 year? If he doesn't want to do anything go get your $$$ back!! Some guys r like that wich is very sad.BE HONEST with him and tell him how u feel ASAP.

Answer 5

Wrap up a brick and give it to him i fhe is that inconsiderate.
He doesn't sound like long term material and what he really wants is to close the relationship with out hurting you.
Try just being dating friends a while and don't get too far into this guy.You are young and have the world in front of you. Don't waste it on serious relationships at your age.

Answer 6

Call him and talk about what's going on with you two. If he still doesn't want to do anything, take back his present, get the cash, and buy yourself something special. If he treats you like that now, how is it gonna be in 5 years, or if you get married? Tell him how you feel and how much it hurts that he doesn't care. If he doesn't care enough to listen, you don't need him anyway. ; )

Answer 7

This is why you wait to do all this crap after your married.
Let me guess you live together?

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

I would do this,

1. move out get my own place
2. Stop having sex with him ( until marraige)
3. Start courting eachother

If he doesnt like it there are plenty of good lookin
guys who believe in old fashioned romance
and courtship, that is what makes relationships
strong and exciting.

Answer 8

Happy Anniversary to you. I go to Dover every year in the fall (not this year though) It was the best race yesterday, especially at the end. I hope you enjoyed it. Heck yes I liked the race.

Answer 9

uh where do i start? well happy 1st anniversary and second of all the cant read your mind!! this is silly you two need to talk and work this out...good luck

Answer 10

its his way off telling you to take the 200 dollar thing back and just giving it up to him instead