what do you do if you like a girl but she don't like you back?

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Answer 1

I spent 7 years (on & off) trying to get a girl to like me. We're friends still, but I don't really want to be with her anymore. In fact I find her unappealing, but since we've known each other for about 18 years, we're a bit like Bro&Sis (maybe like cousins) these days. I've spent considerable time, energy, emotions, and money trying to win her over and still never got to be more than friends. I can't say it was all bad, the way things unfolded I got to live in Japan, see Hong Kong, Thailand, Jebel Ali, Australia (Perth, Sydney, & Armidale) Singapore, S. Korea, Guam, Pearl Harbor, and I got to see my relatives in the Philipines that I hadn't seen in 20 years. Plus I got to meet by last girlfriend, a cute Australian girl, but we had broken up because the long-distance thing was too hard for her.

You should move on. Granted things turned out kinda alright for me, I still wish I had done things differently. You shouldn't waste your time trying to convince a girl to like you, the cost in time, energy, money, and emotions are too high a price if you ask me. There is very little chance that she'll actually be worth the all effort. You'll only be miserable in a relationship because she'll never put any effort into it since you are willing to "do anything" for her.

You should try to find someone that is just as interested in you as you are with her. The shared effort between you two will make for a better relationship since there is a balance with the amount of give & take. It will be much less stressful since you don't have bend over backwards and kill yourself doing things to get her attention.

Answer 2

well if it were reversed in my case,
i would try my hardest for them to change their mind. maybe she just wants to be friends. you dont want to force anyone into doing something they dont want too.