Okay so i was talkign to my girl friend on msn and she had a guy actor display pic on and my mom said ohh who is that guy ur talking to and i was like WTF thats a guy actor. And she is like sure. but it was a guy actor it was johhny deep. Then she says why are u disrespecting us by talkign with older men??? I WAS SO PISSED OFF SHE NEEVR TRUSTS ME AND I HAVE NEVER LIED TO HER ABOUT BAD STUFF. I AM SO SICK OF HER! how can i make her stop beign so overprotectieve???????AND MY DAD IS THE SAME WAY!!!!!I dont liek them being like this it makes me cry cuz i have no freedom because of them. Nor can i go out or with my friends ever. i mean i go out once a month and they say OHHH,u skank your going out every day wht the heck is this"? SO what can i do????I cant deal 4 more years with this crap!
2006-11-30 15:23:08 · 16 answers · asked by Haley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What you are feeling is quite common. Your parents care about you and worry about you. They know that you are going through some of the most difficult and turbulent years of your life right now and even though you may feel you are grown up, you still have a lot of maturing to do. They know more about the dangers of the world than you do and they want you to be safe. Show them how mature you can be by accepting their rules without a fuss and you might be surprised with the results. Your parents will always be your parents and someday you will go to your mom and say, "I'm so sorry for the way I was and the hard time I gave you when I was 14 and 15." My daughter did.
2006-11-30 15:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are u Haley? Just asking because I was a teenager before and I had trouble also but here's the deal. I'm sure your parents want the best for you and with the internet these days you run into all kinds of perverts and child molesters so they are worried that you might be talking to one that's why. So yeah, they are a bit paranoid. So this is what I would do. Get the pic again that your mom saw and go to the website where Jonny Depp is and show her the photos of him with the one she saw when you were talking. So this way she realized that she made a mistake and hopefully not jump to conclusion next time. And talk to your mom this way, sit her down and tell her in a very straight forward manner and say, "mom I know you're concerned about me but I want you to know that I understand there are weirdos out there in the internet and I promise you that I becareful whenever I talk to strangers, so please have a some faith in me and if ever I need advice or your help I promise to come to you." Tell her like that and she'll think you're an mature enough to handle it. But if you keep arguing then she'll treat you like a kid. So reassure your parents off and on so they don't think you're drifting away from them. Don't argue but reassure in a mature way. Ok. Good luck.
2006-11-30 15:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y ur parents dont trust ur words? did u ever did something wrong? tell the gal about ur probelm and and ask her to change the photo. find johnny depp photo tt look like she posted and show to them tt this foto is johnny depp not the gal u chat with.
being overprotected is not very nice, u also cant get ur freedom but not lost ur freedom, u can not be independent but in ur age u still need parents by ur side to control here and there. in other hand they as parent are worry their son will end up really like a piece of skank,
show to them that they can trust you. instead of get angry with them . show them tt what they think about you are wrong. they are parents, maybe they have seen more and have been thru many many years of experience before you. Respect them by putting ur self as their position
making ur parents as enemy is one hell stupid thing and mistake. u will regret someday as you still young. many years away u must go thru and u need them both.
from what i see, ur parents are still good to you, at least .. as u say they over protected u, what if they DONT give what a damn care. they just born u in this world and leave u to struggle to die or live and never have any responsible as parents.
just think, u think ur parents worse, there are some other parents out there are WORSER than your... can't deal 4 more years?? LOL? if u cant change them, change urself..
2006-11-30 15:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by simplelife76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your talking to your parents like you say you are "i was like WTF that guys an actor" I can see why their over protective. You shouldn't talk like that to them. It's one thing to try and sound ALL GROWN UP to your friends, but your parents know talking like that is just a sign of immaturity. And it's quite obvious your very immature. If you think your so grown up and your parents are so bad why not go to the courts and get emancipated. All you'll have to do is get a job so you can pay for your own place. And of course the courts will insist on you still finishing school.
2006-11-30 15:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so your parents are over protected what can you do? Nothing but try talking to them. I think all teenagers get mad at their parents at times but you have to admit that you care for them and cant help it but try to talk to your mom and let her know that the picture was an actor and not a guy you were talking to.
2006-11-30 15:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I notice in your question you stated that "you've never lied to them about bad stuff" What you consider bad and what they consider bad are two different things. Parents show concern over Internet chat sites because of all of the perverts out there waiting to hurt their children. I understand that at your age it seems unfair, but believe me when I tell you that your parent's are like this because they love you. You are one of the lucky ones even though you don't feel that way right now. When you are a parent you will understand how they feel.
2006-11-30 15:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks. Try to tell them about the good things you do. Like grades, being home on time, ect. If you still can't get them to lighten up, go to a friends and stay a while, go out when you're there. My mom and dad are like that too, but they ARGUE about if I can go out or not.
2006-12-03 06:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Keys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry I'm just giving suggestions try to take yoga to release your pain then try to have a serious talk with them tell them that you think you should have your own privacy because your a girl growing up and they need to respect that and ask them did they feel the same way about it when they were young.
2006-11-30 15:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by lakisha12006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl I know has to deal with the same thing you're going through...she takes it well only because she has friends online. Is there a reason why she would not trust you? This is unusual...
Well, wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-30 15:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be the oldest/purely baby. My father and mother were the very similar way! clarify to them that youngsters will tease you in case you do not shave (even no matter if it isn't authentic). I understand their element about football although. it really is a violent sport which finally ends up in extra injuries than the different sport. now to not indicate the better occurence of drug, alcohol and steroid use between football gamers, besides as sexual promiscuity. both way, purely save being a reliable youngster and once you graduate, the international will be yours. carry close in there . . .
2016-11-30 00:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋