2006-11-30 15:15:02 · 9 answers · asked by betty_htch 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you are probally wanting answers from guys. Here is my feeling on this subject I have four kids of my own and am currently dating a guy who has two kids of his own. I hate it I have dated guys before with no children and it was much easier there are days when I just want to give up because I am not good with other peoples kids. I am a good mother to my own but cannot stand and resent his. Please dont get me wrong it is not his childrens fault it is just the way I feel. I never thought I would feel this way. So no if I could go back I would not date someone with children.
2006-11-30 15:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u both like each other why should it matter if they have kids?
having said that kids will put extra strain on a relationship because a good parent will put the kids needs first which will more than likely make the new partner jealous( it happens to a lot of people believe it or not). If u can deal with the kids and u think u and ur potential partner may have a future together go for it. u will need a lot of patience and understanding especially if the other parent of the children (the ex) is hard work u will need to learn to bite ur tongue when it comes to the children or the ex because it will only cause dramas if u dont. dont try and be a parent to the kids just try and be their friend and support ur partner. Best of luck with that
2006-11-30 23:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by suzi Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. For the first time in my adult life I am with someone who has no kids. All my prior boyfriends were already dads. Let me tell you in my experience it does not work. My last one was a long run: 3 years, but ultimately it ended. I have found that relationships work better when you hook up with someone that has had similar life experiences that you've had. If you don't have kids, you will not "get" the whole parental thing. Sure, it's sexy at first when you see him act on his daddy role, and you think you'll forever be able to deal with always being the 3rd priority. But it gets old. You will NEVER be his first priority--and that's how it SHOULD be...his KIDS should be first to him. But then you get jipped. So find someone who doesn't have kids. You'll relate better to them.
2006-11-30 23:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Back in the Day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would as I love kids. They are a pain sometimes but it comes wiht the territory.There are many women out there with kids and I can see it's hard to find someone with so many people going the singles route. I am used to kids and would not have any problem with them but I also understand that very few second marriages with children are without problems..I thinkit's easier whenthe children are young as teens often feel the step parents are responsible for the divorce.
2006-11-30 23:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. I already dated a nice Romanian girl who had a nice blond son. Sadly our relationship is now confined to history.
2006-11-30 23:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by Bachelor boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask that person if their kids know they're dating and how they feel about it. i personally wouldn't because i wouldn't want them to dislike me. however, you can always try getting to know that person's kids before anything serious goes on.
2006-11-30 23:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by angela l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has two or three kids from two or three guys, hell no. If she has one kid and seems well grounded, hell yes.
2006-11-30 23:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by texmusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course i would i plan on havin kids sumday myself
2006-11-30 23:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, BUT I'D TAKE IT SLOW.
2006-11-30 23:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋