Ok heres the deal. Im a single mom of 3. I have been dating this great guy that would give me the world, and i feel like im just not into him. Then there is this other guy that i dated for awhile and he cheated on my with his ex. When they broke up we got back together, and then he went back to her. Now i find out that they broke up, and it takes all my strength not to call him. Is it the chase that i can't live with out?Why do i keep sabatoging all the good relationships? Am i destine to be alone?
2006-11-30 15:13:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please, please, please do not go back to your ex that cheated on you, he will probably do it again.
I don't think you need to feel as though you must date this other guy either. Why not just be friends for a while and if the relationship blossoms into something more, then great. If not, there is someone else destined to be the love of you life.
I was always told that the best relationships are created from those that you did not expect. When I first met my husband, I thought he was the ugliest man on Earth, but we became friends. Then slowly, we dated and one month became three, three became, one year and one year has now become six. And over the years, I have become more and more attracted to him.
There is someone out there for you, maybe you'll meet him tomorrow or in three years. Or maybe you already know him and just don't know how attracted to him you are yet.
2006-11-30 15:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered correct. It's definitely the chase. You need to think about things in the long run, the future. Why sabotage yourself for a guy that you couldn't work it out with before. He left you for another and you still want more. You just have the need to be more important than his ex. it's not him you want, It's the comfort in knowing you can have him. be careful of this behavior, you have 3 kids to think about. I did the same thing for a while that you are doing, I grew up, I had to, I too have kids. Please think wisely and stay away from him. try to enjoy your new guy and give him a chance if he cheated on you and treated you bad, you would probably want him more. Think about it.
2006-11-30 23:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by bridgette c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of 3 your interest should not be in just being with a man. you need to put more interest in other things. But you are destining your own self to be alone cuz you keep leaving the nice guy for an asshole. That guy that you want to run after is not interested in you if he leaves you for your ex. Have more pride for yourself.
2006-11-30 23:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a decent guy. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Why would you chase after a guy knowing how he treats women? think about it. it is contradictory. You are a mother, you have children who probably need a father figure in their lives, so do what is right. But don't be with this other super nice guy if you don't love him, because then its not worth it either
2006-11-30 23:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe anyone is destine to be alone. Sometimes we end up that way because of our idiotic decisions. Think of it from another angle. What if it was one of your children doing the same thing that you are doing? Think about it. What advice would you give your child? Now follow that advice.
2006-11-30 23:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by B R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of your kids first!! Bad boys are really attractive, but when you have kids you don't have the luxury to choose a bad guy who will treat you badly and probably your kids will suffer too. Anyway, Good luck
2006-11-30 23:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by lilreveuse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isay you need a blow up dolls, males of course. 1. THEY DON,T CHEATS.2.THEY DON,T FIGHTS WITH YOU. 3.THEY LOVE ANYBODY THAT GIVE THEM ATTENTIONS INCLUDING KIDS.4. THEY DON,T TALKS BACK OR YELLS AT YOU.5.YOU CAN DRESS THEM UP ANYWAY YOU PLEASES TOO.6.YOU NAME THEM ANYTHINGS YOU WANT INCLUDING ASSHOLE.S.7. AFTER A HARD DAY AT WORK HE READY IN BED ANY TIMES.8.YOU HAVE MORE THAN ONE DOLLS BOYFRIENDS NO ONE GET MAD.9. ALSO THEY MUST HAVE A REALISTIC LOOK PENIS THAT YOU CAN ENJOY.10.FINALGET OUT MR. PLASTIC GO SHOPPING AND LAID HIM UNDER THE TREE HO,HO, HO!!
2006-11-30 23:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's safer for you to be with the "bad" guy because you know he won't commit. Deep down you don't want commitment right now.
2006-11-30 23:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not destined to be alone you just want what you cant have no shame in that thats how alot of people are
2006-11-30 23:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should settle for either one, we all (most of us) deserve someone who will treat us great and that we are mad for . please for your own sake don't get involved with the cheater again , he will never change.
good luck
2006-11-30 23:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by haa haa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋