ok im kinda shy and i want a bf?

Question

i moved to texas in 8th grade im in 10th now and in california i talked alot but here i hardly talk and well ive never had a bf but no one talks to me to get to know me so any tips on how to become more outgoing??? well part of the reason no one talks to me can be cuz i hate it here and dont be reppin there school or anything so can that be it? i have no school spirit wat so ever but if yu have a suggestion about gettin more involved in school, dont try cuz i hate it here but just want a bf or more frends till i move back to cali (when im 18)

i cant just forget california, i lived there for 13 years and that was the only place i have lived my whole life untill my parent just up and decided to move and no one here will accept me cuz im gangsta well not really but these texans get on my nerves, most of them are either racist or preps and i dont deal with either, i grew up with all races and come here and its honky tonk nation! and i cant stand them talkin bout blacks, its bad enough my family does it, i dont expect it at school also

Answer 1

u just need to change ur mentality so that u can see the Positive things instead of the Negatives.


the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.

so having said that, work on:

1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.

2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.

3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.

:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.

Answer 2

Go to the library or football games and blend in with the crowd.
Life is too short to be shy.
Open up, smile, say hello, send christmas cards, come on
think positive and forget california. U are in Texas, good luck.

Answer 3

oh, don't worry about it. i get you but you should get to feel the school spirit. i'm in 11th. once you get the feeling, your high school career is going to change dramatically, no doubt. how are you going to get a boyfriend if you're not involved? once you do get a boyfriend, how will you participate in school activities with your boyfriend? you have to start talking then :)

Answer 4

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