OK. This is the third time I've put this on here. I don't think I'm that dam tired that I can't type my own question, but maybe.
OK...I'm dating this guy that I really like. We've been dating a few weeks. Things are starting to get a little physical, and while I'm not complaining, I don't want to have sex until I know that this is a relationship that's gonna last a while. (I'm not saying that I want to know tomorrow that he's gonna marry me, I just want to know that I'm not some 6 week "fling".) When would it be appropriate to have the "relationship" talk with him? I think I know what his thoughts are, but I'm not 100%.
Please no preaching about sex and STD's. Virginity is long gone (I'm almost 27 years old), and I remember my high school health classes, thanks.
2006-11-30 15:07:18 · 12 answers · asked by Cheyenne 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No...I haven't figured it out yet...I haven't been in the dating scene for a while. (Just recently got out of a 3+ year relationship, and never really dated a whole lot before that.)
2006-11-30 15:12:27 · update #1
thanks, honey. i guess i'm not as tired as some of these dumb ***** made me seem. sorry i deleted the other one...
2006-11-30 15:19:34 · update #2
Darn - i had my answer written last time and you deleted the question!! LOL!!
I think it would freak him out to ask after only a couple of weeks. I doubt if he has a clue yet where it is going.
Hold off a little longer. Next time he brings up some event in the future, then I would ask where he sees your relationship going. But, you know, people change their minds at anytime in a relationship - no guarantees.
I definitely understand your wanting to know if it's long term. And the more time you spend together the faster you'll know. In the meantime, there are lots of things you can do to get closer.....it will just enhance the anticipation when you finally do feel ready for sex!!
2006-11-30 15:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by honey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get the book " he's not into you" it will give you a guide line to know if a guy really cares about you or if he just wants sex
did he approach you 1st?
did he call within 24 hours of having your number?
does he take you to places that is just him and you or around a bunch of friends?
if you can answer yes to all of those then yes he is into you.
don't be in a hurry to have sex 3 weeks is not long enough time to make a guy wait. he will think that you put out that quick for every man that buys you dinner
2006-11-30 23:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is refreshing to see someone that is 27 and has enough self confidence to know that she is worth more than a booty call. You go girl. I think You should not have a relationship discussion with him , as much as just casually through conversation discuss how you have been burned and would like to see if things are going to work out before you jump into bed with him. If it scares him off there's your answer. Hang tough and stay proud.
2006-11-30 23:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not 100% sure when the relationship talk is but usually its around the 3-4 months area. It really just depends on how mature the two of you are.
2006-11-30 23:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by montana_infantry_man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I have found, the less you 'bring it up', the more 'available' the guy makes themself to you. All you can really say is what you want, and make sure you stick to your guns. It's sad that men rarely come out and say 100% of what they feel/want right off the bat.....maybe if they would, we wouldn't suffer as much heartache.
From what I have been through, I have initiated the conversations, and I did this about the 2nd, 3rd month. As for the sex thing......girl, do what you feel is right, have fun. :)
2006-11-30 23:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mary Margaret L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait at least a couple of months before you talk relationships with this guy. If you start talking about it to soon, you will scare him off.
2006-11-30 23:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See if you cant bring up the topic in a way that is not so bold...ask him what he thinks and then tell him how you feel. If he likes you he will wait...if not his lose_
2006-11-30 23:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah have the talk with him, if you don't want to get physical you don't have to...i agree with you you have to know that he really wants to be with you and it's going to last long (hopefully marriage)
2006-11-30 23:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by Toyre_826 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use protection and go wid the flow......if its for real u will know or u both will move on.
Good Luck
2006-11-30 23:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
what is wrong with waiting will not show his level of commitment
2006-11-30 23:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by tim k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋