How do I forget her?

Question

She was my finacee'. I think about her all day, every day. I dream of her every single night. I am still very much in love with her. Someone please help me by telling me the best way to let her go. I am killing myself more and more everyday by holding on to her.

I thought I might add the detail that it has been one year, and she is now married.

Answer 1

I think the only way to truly get over someone when you know it will never work out is to think about them as if they have died. Then you can kind of grieve them but still hold on to the good memories you have of them when you were together.

Then, you have to do everything you can to not see her or hear what she's doing, etc. She has to be completely gone from your everyday life in order for you to get over her.

Then, find ways to get out and around other people and meet new people. You may not feel like it but I promise it is still better to be out trying to keep your mind off her. You won't get over her sitting at home thinking about her and remembering the times you had with her. Try to get regular exercise as that helps too.

I wish you good luck. Just know that just about everyone has gone through a rough break up and they get through it. God has 3 answers to our prayers:
1. Yes
2. Yes, but not right now
3. No, because I have something better in mind for you

Answer 2

ey buddy, as you can see, millions of people have lived this once or many times in their lives... so? what are you going to do?
you are so freakiiiiiiing special because you are a son of god, even if you believe in him or not there buddy... (im not a religious person), I just believe that we are all special, even if we have one more eye, gray hair, and ugly as he.... So? you are important, because you are a person with integrity and you dont need to be loved in order to live. You can love and live happily. First thing you have to do is understand that you will never forget things, and that you have to put those things on a side, because if those things are not happening anymore is because whoever you think your god is has a good girl waiting for you... wait!!! maybe he will give you the opportunity to work with the poor and understand that there are huge problems out there. Well.... Ive been there as well, and I can tell you that you will not forget, never ever, you will prioritize and love things or people later on with maturity and more prepared to handle your own weaknesses

Answer 3

I can understand, I've been there.
Here's what works for me. Part of what bugged me the most was the thought of her with someone else. But you need to understand that the chemical bond created by the two of you together is uniquely yours. No one else will have that. Mentally find something that sums up who she was for you during your relationship and mentally place that object in a box. See yourself doing this, and put that box on a shelf. Visually it actually closed.
Take a deep breathe, and close this chapter.
Tomorrow, look forward to writing the next chapter. Your story's far from over.

Answer 4

I was once engaged to a guy. We broke up suddenly and I was devastated. Then I shook the hand of a very cute guy. I dated the cute guy and we broke up, and I got back together w/ the fiance.

As it turns out, I missed the cute guy.

The cute guy and I have now been married for 3 yrs.

So, ya never know what nice girl you may end up meeting. Then you may not want this one. Why would you want something that causes you pain? I was glad to be done with the heartache. Life is too short to be unhappy.

Answer 5

Sorry to say, you'll never forget her. Just try to understand that she made you happy and appreciate the time you had with her. Do something for yourself, like play a sport or join a club and hang out with friends. It will feel better eventually, but it will never be gone.

Answer 6

If you love her SO much, it isnt worth letting her go. It will kill you even more if you had to live your life knowing that you let the person you love go. You'll regret it. You think and you dream of her because you love her, she's your only one. DONT LET HER GO. stop thinkin about her by focusing on your grades, school, friends, homework, hobbies, enterest, future, and if it helps. think. FAKE bad things about her. you know it isnt true

Answer 7

sorry to hear that things didn't work out with you and her.....the best thing to do is take it one day at a time.....start by thinking about why you guys aren't together.....i to had a hard time getting over my ex we too were going to get married but i messed things up.....it's hard to see the one you love love someone eles.....the only thing i can tell you is to try to talk to other girls......just take about your problems...... and that way you can get your feeling out and possible gain a good friend and in the long run you could possible fall in love with her......cuase the bset couples start off as friends

Answer 8

Everything takes time but sooner or later you will be ready and find someone else. Keep yourself busy but don't become a workaholic. Exercise, clean, listen to upbeat music like techno. If it doesn't work just talk to someone about it like family. I am sure one of them will understand.

Answer 9

hi i don't think you'll find your answer on a website you make want some form of counseling. you wont be able to forget her and thats ok you just have to figure out how to live your life without her good luck.

Answer 10

just take one day at a time,write down your thoughts ,use the unchanneled energy on making yourself better,and hang around with us we've been there too,talk about your feelings to someone you can trust who wont judge or give you advice.