My sister has been acting evil since she started hanging out with her boyfriend. A big oaf who is always playing video games. She was a very sweet young lady. But she has turned against us. My mother recently married a young African man and he is living with us. The guy is very decent, smart, kind and very personable. She hates his guts for no reason. She teases my mother and calls the guy (behind his back) an African monkey. Today, I told her why she hated him so much. I suggested she may have a crush on him. She went balistic and attacked me. I love my sister dearly, but this time I had to defend myself. I restrained her so that her punches wouldn't hit my face and I threw her on the ground. She was not hurt. She went to her room and locked herself in there. What is going? She is 19 years old.
2006-11-30 14:55:07 · 20 answers · asked by R R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok there's another possibility (however remote). He MIGHT be messing with her.
2006-11-30 15:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 16⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing you should do is tell her sorry for making a dumb comment that she might have a crush on your step-father. The problem COULD BE that she doesn't like your mom getting married again. She probably isn't comfortable seeing your mom with any other man other than you father. And because of this stuff she might have distanced her towards you guys. You and your mom like your step-father but she is probably not comfortable having a step-dad. So best thing is to talk to her as a friend and slowy get the frustration out of her. Be patient, be friendly, make her believe that you do care about her and would listen to whatever she has to say. Then eventually she'll tell you what's bothering her and why she doesn't like the new dad. Just don't get angry or say whatever. How old are you btw? I hope this helps!
2006-11-30 15:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 1⤋
She could be possessed but another side to it is, maybe your mothers husband is not as decent as u think. His race doesn't matter. What if he had made a pass at her? she would hate him, your mom, and u, although u don't know it, psychologically she feels that u are on his side. So, u may have to be sympathetic and question her. Again as u said on the other hand. If you are a Christian, u can use the name of Jesus. See how she behaves then. Often racist ideas and violent behavior is a result of demon possession. U have to pray for your sister. In your prayers, ask that she be healed in Jesus' name. Also if u are a Christian, read the Bible in her hearing. That's another way to heal those who are possessed. Hope it helps.
2006-11-30 15:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 1⤋
Well she has serious problems and I hate to say this because most of the time I don't believe in them but she needs a counselor. Someone to talk to outside of the family. If she can't see how bad she is disrupting your family hopefully the counselor can make here see the errors in her ways. If not she is definetely old enough for your mom to make her move out. A little tough love might change her attitude.
2006-11-30 15:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 1⤋
Evidently you both are old enough to move out. Don't ask or expect her to hold your views on her mothers marriage. This sounds like a reaction to what she thought was a nice family and home before her mother remarried.
She is as entitled other opinion as you are and to be honest it think it upset because you sound as you are the one wiht the hots for moma"s new boy friend. If you are coming out of the closet and having issues with it, don't try to blame it on your sister. She has feelings too.
2006-11-30 15:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like some anger... Geez, possessed. A little critical from your religon aren't you. That is mean to even believe that. She is going through a rough time and you critisize her! That will make her more angry and make the problem worse. If she is attacking you, call the police. Move out, but for God's sake, quit judging her. If you can't accept her hard times and anger, then walk away, don't give her more reason to be angry,
2006-11-30 14:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear about your sister. I dont think that your sister is possessed I just think shes racist or she is mad at your mother for marrying another man. Maybe her boyfriend may have been having bad influence on her or maybe not. She needs to get a grip....its not all about her...its about your mother being happy no matter what his race is shes happy.
2006-11-30 15:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by inquistive275 2 · 13⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever thought maybe she feels like he has invaded on her territory. Her home is like her santuary and when someone new that maybe she doesn't clearly know comes in, it does get emotional. She might not feel safe with him either, all you can do is talk to her in private without him there. Then talk to him about it and try to compromise.
2006-11-30 15:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 1⤋
Do you mean possed, like she has set up a group
of friends who mooch off her success, or do you
mean possessed, like the devil now owns her soul?
Because if you really meant the latter, then, surprise!
It means she is a sister. They are all evil!
2006-11-30 14:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by PoohP 4 · 12⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the new boyfriend is predjudiced and she's copying his atitute. Have a casual talk with him and see if you can get a feeling about his atitude towards black people. Good luck.
2006-11-30 16:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 12⤊ 1⤋
at that age i really cant tell you whats going on what you need to do is sit down with your sister and ask whats going on that means even if u might get attacked but if you love her and care and in my conclusion looks like you do
2006-11-30 14:58:21 · answer #11 · answered by im at onegirlnumba@hotmail.com 1 · 12⤊ 1⤋