My boyfriend has been good friends with this female for several years and visited her at her apartment (in a different state) last year and is doing it again this year. He said he was going to before he met me. He's going to stay in a room in her apartment for a week. They had a brief fling about 9 years ago but were mostly good friends. I don't like the idea of him staying w/ another woman in her apartment. He told me I need to trust him & not worry because she's just a friend & he already told her he'd visit.
While I don't think he'll do anything bad, I still hate the idea of him staying with her. I don't think it's right when he's in a committed relationship. He says I'm overreacting & jealous. Not sure what my train of thought should be on this. Any suggestions?
2006-11-30 14:47:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to the same state a few days after him and invited him to stay with me. Since his friend lives farther away from where I'm staying, he said he still wants to stay with her since this trip is about spending time with her & it'd be more convenient.
2006-11-30 14:53:01 · update #1
& she's coming to our state the next month, so I'll get to meet her then.
2006-11-30 14:54:02 · update #2
If you've got the money, you could offer to pay for a hotel room for him. Or, you could go on the trip with him. Otherwise, I'd say, just do your best to stay busy and don't let it get to you. It sounds like you *do* trust him but you're still jealous. That's normal. But don't let it mess things up.
2006-11-30 14:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't given you any reason to not trust him, then you should trust him. Just because he is in a commited relationship now does not mean that he should just dump his other commitments or his friends. Why don't you ask if you can come along...not necessarily for this trip...but maybe the two of you could plan a trip together. Tell him that if this friend of his is so important to him, then you would like to meet her and get to know her since you are now a part of each other's lives, and it's even okay to let him know that it might make you feel better about him visiting alone if you were able to meet her and get to know her a little. She may turn out to be a great friend for you, too.
2006-11-30 22:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be a cold day in hell before I'd let my boyfriend in a comitted relationship TAKE OFF and meet some girl and stay in HER apartment for a week. Honey, you have every reason NOT to trust him especially since he thinks your "overracting". Either he thinks he's got you so whipped you'll go along with it or that you are easy enough to be fooled by the "just friends" thing. Put your foot down. You go and I go. Dont' put up with that...if ya'll were married would he STILL be trying to take off and go stay somewhere. No way.
2006-11-30 22:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Shugsmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
FRIEND and EX-LOVER ----------- dump this guy like a bad hot potato---- you should not put up with this behavior now or ever and besides this fine "trusting" guy will continue his sorry behavior when you get married ---- find someone that wants to stay and NOT STRAY-=-=-=you derseve better that his sorry attitude of your committed relationship and you can trust the view that I am giving you -----he ain't worth the worry......
2006-11-30 22:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by XTX 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you are on the right train of thought. He should respect your relationship and how you feel about that. If he is going to see her, why does he have to stay a whole week, sounds kind of strange to me!!! That's just my opinion though, Follow your heart, but he should respect your wishes!
All The Best!
2006-11-30 22:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off ask him you can come with him. Say you want to meet her and get to know her. if he says no your going to have to trust him. if he's been friends with her for that long i doubt anything will be going on between him.
2006-11-30 22:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with him im sure if he is good friends with the girl then you should be good friends to
2006-11-30 22:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by kingajs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave him if he doesnt listen
2006-11-30 22:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm...id say...
go with him =]
2006-11-30 22:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by suzy o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with him
2006-11-30 22:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by NeRdYkId1101 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋