punishing your child in "time-out" is a joke?

Question

when i was a kid the only "time-out" there was-was when WE KIDS called it because we had had enough of dads belt....

Answer 1

Hell yeah...where was that "time out" sh*t when I was a kid?
The ONLY thing that ever worked on me was a spanking. If I got any other type of punishment...extra work, being grounded, loss of privileges, etc....I figured I had gotten away with it.

Answer 2

time outs might be appropriate in some cases but in most more of a sit down discussion is better. When a child gets put in a time out he or she just sits there and though some people beileve its an effective way for a child to think about what he or she did i dont believe so. Although if you have had the same problem with the same child maybe a time out is neccisary. If you are very angry about what the child has done you should put them on a time out instead of ever hitting or spanking them that should only be used in saftly situations you never want your child to fear you!

Answer 3

Parents that put their kids on time out are the ones in the whose kids are throwing a tantrum and throwing stuff at them in the grocery stores. They also get cursed out on talk shows...and need to go to boot camp.

I only told my daughter once when she was 2 yrs old that if she continued to act like that at the store, she would end up in a foster home because I was going to beat her butt and they would call the police on me in that store. I never really had to spank her.

Now she is 8 yrs old, and I only have to give her a look and she gets in line. She rarely gets spankings, but if I tell her something more than three times, changes are she is getting spanking. The fear of them is worst than getting them, and it hurts me to give them to her because I rarely have to.

But time out is ridiculous, unless you are a child care provider. I dont think it is ever okay to physically discipline anyone else's kids.

Answer 4

It may be a joke but its better than being beaten.

Yes I had to put on 5 pairs of trackies and my dressing gown to lessen the pain of the strap. How frightening and scary it was when dad was angry. Do we really want this for our children. NO I DON'T!

A smack, not a beating is sufficient. As is other non-physical punishment.

Answer 5

I believe it to be somewhat effective as a part of balanced positive and negative reinforcement techniques. But for disciplinary action, very little works as well as a swat on the butt and a look in your eye that tells your child very bad things are coming unless changes are made.

Answer 6

Different punishments are appropriate for different behaviors. But yeah, some times there's no substitute for a good belt-whipping.

Answer 7

No, it's not a joke. It works for a lot of families. I concede that maybe it doesn't work for ALL families but don't knock something that works for many many people.

I never had "dad's belt" in my life and I also never got into trouble, never drank, never did drugs or had sex too young. I didn't need someone slapping me around to get their point across.

Answer 8

To my boys time out means they can't do whatever they were doing to be put in time out for now, Spanking them means they shouldn't ever do it again. I do however believe in sitting my child down and explaining to him why they are getting a spanking and why they shouldn't be doing whatever it was they were doing. Then I spank them and send them to there room.

My boys get the point.

Answer 9

I never got the point of that either, doesn't seem to work, it's about as effective as parents who count to ten when their kid is doing something bad!

Answer 10

Spankings are the way to go! People think it's disrespectful, but shoving your kid in the corner and making them feel unworthy of human contact when acting up is alot more disrespectful.