I am 18 and have never been kissed or asked out or anything. I've had one or two good guy friends, but I 'm shy around them, its really hard for me to make eye contact with a good looking guy.I've had my share of crushes but nothing ever happened. My closest friends have always been girls, they are soo much easier to talk to. Sometimes I even think I'm gay. I don't have any desire to make out with other girls, but that doesn't mean I don't admire the beauty of the female body. I don't think this makes me gay but I'm not sure. With guys on the other hand, its hard for me to picture myself kissing one or getting really aroused by one because I've never even been kissed or held hands or anything. Maybe I just need to be in a really good friendship with a guy first before I think about dating him. I don't really think its that I'm gay, I think its that I'm a late bloomer who has to find a guy in which she can be herself around without being nervous. Am I right or just fooling myself?
2006-11-30 14:35:07 · 24 answers · asked by berlinflute80 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are on the right track go ahead and have both as a matter of fact you can have both together now thats hot
2006-11-30 14:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that chicks that are bi are kinda cool.....but it seems like I never get any of that action lol... I would prolly kiss you if you were cute...heh...I think you need to loosen up a little...most dudes are worried about not getting in trouble these days...and since you just turned 18 it seems that now you are approachable...its sad because now you don't know what to do...you see...if a girl is under 18 for some reason it's common thinking that a guy can go to jail for as much as looking at her...I kind of believe this too...20 years ago this wasn't the case at all...but now since everyone is suing each other for anything no one trusts anyone anymore...for example...if I was 18 and you were 17 I would feel that the only thing i could do was talk to you until you were 18...now even more critical is...what if you were 17 and said you were 18 to get some action...then someone found out that an 18 year old was kissing you and told your parents and they got involved...the next thing you know the state is pressing charges for statutory rape...here's another example...say I was 15 and you were 14 and we engaged in sexual encounters...I would go to jail because I am the male if we got caught by the wrong people even if we were consenting at the time...it's a messed up world we live in today...that's why I'm voting for a more liberal government this time around...let's you and I get back some of the freedom of life and thought that seems so sorely missed...
2006-11-30 14:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age, I found it easier to be friends with a boy first. More thatn likely, once the other boys see how relaxed you are and how easy going you are with your friend, they will start to ask about you or they will just approach you themselves. Then after months or even years later your friend will admit to you that he always had a crush on you. It never fails. Don't be in a rush to have a boy kiss you. You don't want to give him the wrong idea. It will happen. If you're wondering and asking why boys haven't kissed you and how you get nervous being around them, YOU'RE NOT GAY! It's a normal thing to get nervous.
2006-11-30 14:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Summer Breeze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. I dont think you are gay many women find the female body a beautiful thing to look at, I have a boyfriend but I always admire other girls' beauty and I would much prefer seeing a naked woman rather than a naked man, and I am so not gay.
I think you should just not think about it too much because when you stop pondering and obssesing is when things tend to happen. You just need to meet a sensitive guy whose personality you like (as well as physical) and the physical stuff will become second nature.
2006-11-30 14:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you arent gay. you arent being foolish. you are right.
I'll be honest. I'm not a bad looking guy, but I am in virtually the same shoes as you. I don't care if strangers know this, but I graduated high school only having kissed one girl and was with her for maybe the whole winter time my senior year. I don't think I am gay, but yes, it is way easier to talk to the same sex. My e-mail is josephadel_3@yahoo.com if you ever want to talk to an un-biased stranger for advice. I'd be happy to talk and try to help.
2006-11-30 14:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when you find the right guy. I don't think you're gay, you will know if you are. As you said, you can't picture yourself with guys because you have not had any experiance yet. Your time will come. Just keep yourself open, don't be centered around one type of guy, give others a shot.
2006-11-30 14:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by The Answer Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world wouldn't like you to believe this truth, but I'll give it to ya since I care. Just because you feel awkward doesn't mean you're gay. It may seem an easy way out, but don't take it because you're frustrated. You're better than that. Hang around. There's someone good for ya. Maybe you're being conditioned to appreciate your future person!
2006-12-02 16:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by Skip L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. You're not gay. A lot of people take a while to find the right person. Next time you have a crush, let the person know about it. Half the time, that's all it takes for something to develope. Good luck :)
2006-11-30 14:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Foxglove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admiring females does not make you gay, especially if you don't desire them. It might make you OK with your sexuality and that's good. I think you may just be nervous. If you are in college or will be going to college, it'll be easier for you. If there's someone you're interested in, don't hesitate to ask them out for coffee or something...just to talk... just see where it goes. Your time will come. Just enjoy being with your friends!!
2006-11-30 14:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by graduatecj08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My roommate is 20 and she has never been kissed. Its not a problem at all. You just have yet to find the right guy. I think its silly to kiss a guy that you don't have feelings for. It takes something away from the magic. Quality over quanity and if quality requires you to wait, it'll be worth it.
2006-11-30 14:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax and try to put yourself in situations where there are mixed groups of guys and girls. What are your hobbies and interests?
Throw a party. Ask your girlfriends to invite other people (available guys!). When you talk to guys it's really easy. Ask them about themselves! Keep the conversation centered on the guy and his likes, dislikes, cars, experiences, where he went to school, whats his favorite subject... You'll find yourself getting kissed in no time!
2006-11-30 14:42:16 · answer #11 · answered by John L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋