After what I thought was a strong relationship for over a year I became pregnant. My ex totally turned into another person. He told me to get an abortion and that he wasnt ready to be a father at such a young age. He left when I was 6 weeks pregnant so I have been doing this alone. I dont even have a way of contacting him other than yahoo i/m which he never answers me back. My daughter is now 6 months old and he has never laid eyes on her. In my eyes, it seems as if he doesnt want to be bothered by either of us and that is fine. I have reconnected with someone who loves me and my child and he is willing to raise her as his own. Could he just sign an AOP stating that he is the father? My daughter has her biological dad's last name. We just want to move on and never have any contact with the sperm donor or his family.
2006-11-30 14:34:06 · 6 answers · asked by confused346 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I was given the papers in the hospital because of course my daughters biological father wasnt even present for her birth. They just told me to have the father fill them out, etc etc. They didnt say anything about having to get a dna test done. I was also told that you can give your child any last name that you want and it doesnt matter. Is that true?
2006-11-30 14:43:16 · update #1
Thanks everyone. The bio dad's name isnt listed on the birth certificate. If I get an attorney to draw up papers to relinquish rights(and he signs) then I can be done with him? His parents have met her once when she was 4 months so they could possibly pose a problem. My new guy and I were just going to tell them that he is the father so dont bother us anymore.
2006-11-30 14:46:57 · update #2
Your new guy can not sign the papers. One it is fraud and two she has her fathers name on the birth certificate. Also in order for the AOP to be fully conducted most states require paternity test to be done as well. Good Luck and Congrats
2006-11-30 14:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the biological father never signed a paternity affidavit or the birth certificate then he's not legally the father until he does so or you have a paternity test. The man your with now can sign the acknowledgement of paternity and no one would be the wiser. However I wouldn't do it that way. Ask the biological father to sign over his rights so he doesn't have to have anything to do with your child. I suggest getting a lawyer because you need some solid legal advice in this situation.
2006-11-30 15:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughters biological father left when she was just a little over a year old. We divorced. Afterward, I found myself a lawyer and had his rights revoked. He signed them away willingly, but I was told that if he wouldn't do that, they would take it to court and take them away anyway. They can do that. He hadn't had any contact with her and wasn't making any attempt to see her or have anything to do with her, so they had very good grounds to do so. Get a lawyer, have her/him file papers to have his right's revoked. If he cares no more for her than that, it's in her best interest. It only takes a sperm donor to make a baby, but it takes a REAL MAN to be a father!!!!!!!!
2006-11-30 15:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know a whole lot on this, but i do know that the baby can have your last name. also, the father does not even have to be on the birth certificate, but you won't be able to collect any child support from him. i would recommend calling a lawyer to ask a few questions. most will give you free advise!
2006-11-30 14:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he needs to sign a paper to relinquish is parental rights or your going after him for child support. i would contact an attorney and let him do all of the legal stuff. if this guy doesn't sign his parental rights over to you then later in life he can make it very difficult for you!!!
2006-11-30 14:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by george 2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a shame that he has done this to you and your daughter. However, he is the biological father and your daughter will eventually want the right to know that. Do not ever lie to her about who he is and who she is. If this other guy wants to raise her as his, that is fine, make him a guardian, or even let him adopt her, but like I said, your daughter DESERVES the right to know her biological father's name, at least.
2006-11-30 14:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by Phrosty 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋