Im single mom with a 12 year old son who has started walking in house naked aroused. What should i do?

Answer 1

You need to have a very open discussion with your son. He obviously feels very comfortable with you or he would hide in his room. Also, as sick as it seems, you are still a female and he is a young man in puberty. It's not that he is damaged or anything like that, it's a natural curiosity. You need to explain to him that what his body is going through is completely natural, but that he is reaching an age when it is no longer appropriate for him to go without clothes. I wouldn't bring up the erection very much or he may develop a complex about his sexuality. But you can let him know that although there is nothing about what is going on in his body to be ashamed of, he still needs to practice modesty.

Answer 2

I agree that it should not be allowed. You don't mention whether there are other children in your home, but this is unacceptable. I told my son to cover up his underwear too.

You could have a private conversation with your son that talks about privacy and modesty. I'm less concerned about this though, and more wondering why he would think this was a good idea. I would talk with your pediatrician, and I would talk with a counselor.

There are non-drastic ways you can talk with a counselor. You may be hesitant to set up an appointment. Maybe you don't want to embarrass your son, maybe you don't have the money or insurance coverage for a counseling visit. Try this---many employers have a benefit where you can talk with a counselor on the phone for up to 3 sessions.

Give that a try. Or, just call a local counselor and see if they will give you a phone consultation.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Talk to him, an explain why he shouldn't walk around the house naked. He probably doesn't know that he is aroused. It is better if he hears it from you than from somebody else. Be patient he is just a kid. Remember that an estranger could give him false information, make sure that he can come to you any time that he has a question about anything. Good Luck

Answer 4

While he is doing something naked in one of the main rooms, lock all of the doors, grid off the stairs (if you have them), ensure that escape is impossible, then invite some friends over. Since there would be nowhere to hide, your son will be very embarassed.

Answer 5

this is inappropriate behaviour, and your son will only learn what is appropriate when you set the boundaries.

It is an important discussion, and needs to be handled tactfully and carefullly.

Am also curious why he's doing it. Has something happened, has his behaviour changed in other ways? Is he being exposed to inappropriate sexual activity that has brought about this behaviour? I do wonder if he is covering something up, perhaps he's trying to get your attention because he needs to tell you something?

Answer 6

this is very innappropriate. A 12 year-old should know better. If he continues to have this behavior after you tell him to stop I would take him to a family doctor. He may need counseling.

Answer 7

I don't see a problem with non sexual nudity. If kids don't learn about it from their parents, who will they learn from? Our bodies are nothing to be ashamed of. It is actually quite healthy to be nude in appropriate contexts!

Sexual arousal is another thing altogether. When you notice this, perhaps you could gently suggest to him that he go to his room to masturbate, and feel free to return when he's finished.

Answer 8

Woah--take him to a psychiatrist. I'm serious! There maybe something going on! At 12, I already knew it was not right to be naked in front of anyone but yourself and that someone special. OMG!!!

Answer 9

tell him to put on some cloths. And if he doesn't spank his bare butt and tell him again.