I am 24 and currently in a 6 year relationship. Marriage is definately the next step that we will be taking within the next 2 years. I am writing to get this off my chest..Is it really wrong to marry for money? Well I'm not marryin' purely for money..maybe my love is based on money? I know to many it sounds low and disgusting or whatever..And thats fair enough 'cos we all have all own opinions. I know that many of you may say that he deserves better and that he deserves true love but if I was to break up with him, it would kill him.
He is very well off and treats me good and I don't want to end the relationship and struggle through life constantly thinking of bills, morgage payments etc. He does a lot for me and buys me nice things despite how materialistic that sounds. Do people sacrifice true love for financial comfort?..hrm what is true love..Don't they say that there are more there is more than one kindred spirit (or whatever u call it) for a person?..Please advice on this.
2006-11-30 14:15:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well, i married for love and it ended up in the lowest of low low. so, who are we to know the best? it is like beauty in the eye of beholder, you know what life you would like to have, and you will as i did in my way, follow your dream. it is good to have dreams you know! go for it!
2006-11-30 14:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you do if they lost all their money tomorrow? Would you still love them? Some people do marry or stay with someone for financial security. But usually they are unhappy, or just getting by feeling ok. After 6 years, if you haven't really decided you want to be together forever, then it may not happen. Just speaking from experience, I was in a 6 year relationship that didn't work out, and then I met my husband, we got engaged after 4 months, we just knew, simple as that. So far we have been together over 2 1/2 years, and we are falling more and more in love. We call each other and email each other while we are work every day, just to feel connected! We don't argue and we help each other out. We are truly happy. I hope you find the same happiness one day.
2006-11-30 22:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Arianrod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that it seems easy to be with someone and love somebody when financial problems are taken out of the picture...but you also need to remember that you are going to spending EVERY SINGLE DAY of the REST OF YOUR LIFE with this person. The pleasure of money will not last, if you're not fulfilled in the relationship. I dated a multi-millionaire for 3 years--someone who doesn't even have to make his own bed, because he has "staff" to do it. I loved him, but I didn't love him enough. I just wasn't TRULY happy. I ended the relationship, and 3 years later married a cop! (And a cop's salary is pathetically small for what they have to do.) We have to be very careful about every penny we spend. But I can tell you--there is nothing more pleasurable than waking up and seeing his face every morning. I have never been happier. I am looking forward to growing old with this man, and counting our pennies together in the old folk's home.
2006-11-30 22:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're ONLY 24, so you may not have experienced all that life has in store for you yet, so I can forgive your limited view on things. But, know that the relationship you're in is holding you back from the relationship you could be in. If you continue on this path, here's my prediction for you...
-- Loving you as you say he does, you will marry...
-- The lap of luxury makes for a comfortable seat, but loving the money as you do, your heart will QUICKLY grow weary of this man.
-- Then you will inevitably cheat on him, losing further respect for him.
-- Your marriage (unless you prenup) will give you a sense of ownership to cash, thus separating him from being your sole means to cash because now that you said 'I DO' you no longer need him.
-- You will lie to, cheat on and resent your husband and it will eat you up inside because you will become bitter. (acid burns)
This is NOT a fire and brimstone speech from on high, trust me. I'm not looking down on you. But if you think about this, you'll see that this path is not impossible.
My advise is NOT to marry, NEVER LIE about how you feel about him. If he chooses to stay and woo you, then cool.
Mister Right may come, but not if you are already dating Daddy Warbucks.
2006-11-30 22:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by websco137 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will be great for awhile, with all your financial needs met and little concern regarding that. But what happens when you DO meet someone else and fall in love?
Then what? THEN, you will be willing to sacrifice all your financial security for that wonderful feeling of love.
If you don't really love this man, he won't be able to fulfill your passions or romantic desires and you WILL go looking somewhere else at some point.
Is this fair to him?
How would YOU feel?
2006-11-30 22:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I will not judge you but I worry if you marry for money now years down the road you will not be happy and you will realize that money cannot keep you happy. Eventually you will find someone you love and may not be able to give you the cushy life your current man can???
Good luck
2006-11-30 23:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple solution: agree to a pre-nuptual arrangement that will bar you from getting any of his money if you get divorced. With that stress off of your shoulders you should be able to have a long and happy marriage.
What? You disagree? Maybe you are just a golddigger after all...
2006-12-01 00:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money is great...........but you are cheating yourself of your "one true love." Wouldn't you rather be with the person who inspires you, desires you, lusts for you and you feel the same way about him, and not his money??
Think about if he lost all of his money, would your love still be enough to keep you with him? If not, then you are with the wrong person.
2006-11-30 22:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Aunie Stina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice not an emotion. Lust is an emotion. If you can chose forever with this guy, do it. If you want lust in your life and he isn't do it for you, better not marry him for love or money.
2006-12-01 01:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, u r soul searching already, just think what it will be like 20 years from now.
2006-11-30 22:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋