Should my friend have sex with the guy she is going out? She really likes him and is willing to do anything to make him happy. Last night he asked her if she wanted to have sex with him. She didn't know what to say she's 19 and she is not sure if to have sex with him? Plz peoples my friend needs help desperately.
2006-11-30 14:09:40 · 34 answers · asked by refreshed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well,
If the guy is pressuring her to have sex, then he is not the one for her because he is not respecting her decision of no (if she says no) and it shows that he is unwilling to sacrifice what he wants to make her happy. I am a guy and I say if he is pressuring her, then he cares for nothing but his dick and not for her. A guy has to respect others decisions, especially the girls. Also, if he wants sex, odds are he has had sex many times before and would love to have a "virgin" since (in guy terms) they are tight. (No offence to you or your friend). He may also have STD's, I am a scientist and the things I know about STD's would literally scare ya to death. You should see some pictures of syphilis on a girl. Hope this helps.
Sincerly,
Wee Man.
2006-11-30 14:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by boychuka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should not have sex if she has to stop and question it for even a minute. When she's ready, she'll know without a doubt. If this guy really cares about her, then he would have no problem waiting until she's ready. Having sex with him will not make him stay or go either way. A guy who would dump you for not having sex with him, is the same guy who would dump you after having sex with him because he's gotten what he's wanted from you.
2006-11-30 14:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say GO FOR IT. Today sex is just another recreation. This is not the 70's or 50's when her reputation will be ruined. She has to start sometime. It might as well be now. That way when she meets someone that she really likes she will have a little experience and be a lot more relaxed.
2006-11-30 14:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by sanramongent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great your friend really likes this guy but giving him sex to make him happy or keep him interested is way wrong. If this b/f really likes your friend then he should be willing to respect her and NOT pressure for the "Horizontal Mombo". If she is not sure, then chances are she should not have sex with this guy. Tell her to listen to ALL her senses, that includes her intuition. I hope she doesn't let her b/f take advantage of her obvious infatuation with him and let this guy get in her pants.
2006-11-30 14:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to learn that she cannot "make" anyone happy...it's up to each person to be happy or not (or anything else), no one can make us anything (happy, mad, sad, etc)
As for sex...she should have it when she's sure she's ready...when she can handle an STD or pregnancy if it occurs...when she is on a good form of birth control and will insist he wear a condom...and when she feels she can handle the emotional issues that come from intimacy...
2006-11-30 14:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if she feels completly comfortable with this person..
Your "first time" is a big deal... Not in terms of actually having sex (which will suck... No one is any good at anything without practise) but in the idea that you will remember it forever... If its not with someone she deeply cares for then she may regreat doing it later in life...
As someone else said, tell her to use protection should she go through with it... You CAN get pregnaunt from your first time... You CAN contract an STD on your first time... Neither is something I think she wants to happen.
2006-11-30 14:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by C.G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it her first time? if so it should be thought about very carefully... and even if it isn't it's still a big step to take with someone. does he care about her, or at least show an interest in her well being? and where would the relationship go from there? if he asks all the time or it seems like he talks about it a lot don't give in to the pressure there is more to her than just her body and if he can't see that then he isn't worth the time, girlfriend
2006-11-30 14:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by nitespector 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not sure, then she shouldn't do it. Period.
Sex isn't something to be taken lightly when you're vunerable (obviously she's a virgin, right?!)
Sex is like marriage, when you find the right guy and you know it without a doubt, you won't hesitate. It will be something you desire more than anything. Not something you dread or question.
Hope this helps!
2006-11-30 14:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by Josi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she's not sure, the answer is NO... Doing it because she'll "do anything to make him happy." Is a poor reason as well... She should do it when it feels right... Not just because he wants to... And trust me, as a man, when I was that age, I'd do ANYTHING to have sex with women, including lying about how I felt about them... And if he gives that bullshit excuse of "If you love me, you'll do it", all she has to say is, "If you love me, you'll wait"...
2006-11-30 14:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by HONORARIUS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not the right choice to do so "just to make him happy"! On the man side, he is too egoistic and the girl side is so naive if she would agree to have sex. Wed copule is fine, but bf is problematic.
2006-11-30 17:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by Kethya Chin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋