I'm very stressed out ..... need advice.?

Question

I've been suffering from depression over the last few months now and have lost my passion for life/work (all things). I'm thinking of resigning from my job in order to take some time off to get well again. What should I do? I'm confused. I must make a decision very soon.

Answer 1

I've always thought of psychological pain as being similar to physical pain--you put your hand in a fire, you feel pain, and that's nature's way of saying get your hand the hell out of there. Depression can be similar--a sign that there's something wrong with your life, but, unfortunately, unlike physical pain, it's usually not so clear about where the problem lies. I'd suggest getting some professional counselling or talking with a friend who you really can trust. The advantage of the professional is that he or she has no agenda--you don't have to worry about disappointing them or looking "weak" or saying something that might hurt them. Because a professional has no prior relationship with you, he or she probably will see your situation more clearly. There are common-sense things you can look at also. Are you getting enough sleep? Are you eating right? Are you actually taking time in life to do fun things? Are you spending time with friends? A common reaction to depression is to withdraw from life, which makes it worse, because you're withdrawing from anything positive that could make you feel better. If you don't feel like being with friends and doing things that you once enjoyed, that's a signal that maybe you should be forcing yourself to try and do those things anyway. There's an old cliche that describes this: "fake it 'til you make it." Another thing you could try is seeing a medical doctor and trying antidepressants. But don't ignore talking with a professional or trusted friend as part of your treatment program. Research suggests that counsellnig and medication works better than either one alone. A good book to read about depression is "Feeling Good," by Dr. David Burns. There is also a "Feeling Good Workbook," also by Dr. Burns. They're both excellent. In the meantime, avoid making any drastic changes in your life, like quitting your job. I hope you get on the path to getting better soon, but remember, it'll take a little bit of work on your part.

Answer 2

im doing my a/level too exams soon only three mind you are not taking enough breaks at all, make a list of what you need to revise and revise them, do a few topics a day work out a revision timetable if it helps based on what is your first exam take a day off revision or if not a day just set aside about half an hour or so i have 3 subjects for a level and 5 exams this is what im doing: ive got a list of everything i need to know for my exam and im ticking it off as I go along (you can get this off msot exam board websites) i only do at most two hours revision a day a bit in the morning and evening, since youre getting stressed in the evening just do a bit, half an hour sessions thats all you need really. i do half hour sessions and go over the stuff i revised the day before. if youre having problems relaxing you can try breathing exercises and you can go to you're local health shop like holland and barrett or beanfreaks and get a bach rescue remedy or ask the shop assistant for something for exam stress i hope this helps, i know it doesn't help to say be calm and don't stress. good luck with you're exams, take plenty of breaks you don't have to or need to revise 24/7 and make sure you have plenty of sleep the night before you're exams. And after you're exams go buy yourself a huge bar ofcohcolate or something cos you deserve it after all that revision you've be doing lately woah:)

Answer 3

By law if you need to go on disability (and it sounds like you do) you CANNOT be terminated. The first thing to do is see a doctor if you have not already done so. He/She will determine if you need to be hospitalized or are able to work and prescribe any medication you might need. If you are NOT that severely depressed, leaving your job may do more harm than good -- it may be better to keep yourself busy. Get the help you need and ask your doctor for options, don't make the decision on your own.

Answer 4

Exercise, eat healthy, do things that made you happy in the past, even if you don't want to. Maybe look at pictures from times when you did feel happy? Read a book, watch a movie, sit on your couch watching Will and Grace eating ice cream in your pajamas.. Take a vacation to relax! Is your job becoming more "work" than something you originally wanted when you started your occupation? Try a career change maybe.

Answer 5

Please, see a doctor...it's obvious you ARE depressed if you recognize that you've lost a passion for everything....don't make a rash decision about your job before speaking to a doctor first. I mean a medical doctor, who can help you rule out medical reasons others than mental health reasons first. Not that I'm an advocate for anesthetizing people from their problems, but there are many mild anti-depressants out there that can help you. You could also seek psychiatric help...the yellow pages has mental health professionals listed, and there are clinics for that as well. Meanwhile...force yourself to exercise and eat right....getting outside in the sun sounds cliche, but there is actual proof that sunlight boosts your endorphins and helps your mood. Don't drink excessive caffeine or alcohol, either....good luck to you...I hope it works out for you!

Answer 6

Get on your knees and pray hun! There is no medication out there stronger than the POWER of the Lord. He is your comfort and your strength. He can move mountains, he can turn the night to day. He gives you breath to breathe. Without him, you alone, can't make it. After you have prayed and confessed, see a doctor. They will give you an anti depressant. This will ease the depression and help you cope better. Depression can lead to heartaches. Don't do this to yourself nor your family. Get it under control before you get worse. I Love you and God Bless you. Have a Wonderful Christmas.

Answer 7

Well your healths very important ., maybe a less stressful job will make you feel better , what you also, have to look at it whether , you enjoy your job but if not then it's best interest to take some time off

Answer 8

Go see a doctor before you make a decision. You may have a chemical imbalance and a few weeks on medicine may have you loving your job again. Besides, when depressed, we need a steady routine in our lives. You have to force yourself to keep going to get past this. Taking time off may result in isolation and make you worse than ever.

If you are already on medication then it may need adjusted. But this isn't a time to make major life decisions like quitting your job.

Answer 9

Lisa,

It seems you have diagnosed your self, here...or has a Physician been consulted.

Do not resign from you work Position....You can take a medical leave of absence..or Go on on FLMA...Family Medical Leave.

Should you decide to take time off...there is an issue that you may loose some structure to your life and daily schedule

I know that you are confused...You need to discuss this in detail with Good friends, Family and of course a Professional.

Good Luck to you.

Answer 10

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