Im new here. I am a mother of 3. And my daughter shes older and she runs around the house naked and she goes to the bathroom on the floor she doesn't use the toilet. She just pees and poops on the floor. What should I do?
2006-11-30 13:28:47 · 13 answers · asked by Abercrombieluver223 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She is 12 years old.
2006-11-30 13:32:52 · update #1
First of all you should keep a diaper on her.
Second you should potty train her if she's old enough.
Just search for "potty training tips" online or even here, up at the top of your screen.
2006-11-30 13:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the adult in the house and insist on the first readers answers.
If you do not learn how to lovingly but firmly assert your authority as a parent IMMEDIATELY, then your life is going to be a living hell the older this child gets.
She doesn't need a suggester or a pal, she needs healthy boundaries & limits from a parent who is willing to put up with the child's momentary displeasure (I know, they can be LONG times), so as to teach her how to have self-discipline and the lifetime ability to achieve & be succesfull.
Try reading "The Strong Willed Child" by Dr. James Dobson.
As a pre-school teacher of many years, it is the best teaching I have ever used. It is about shaping the child's will without breaking the child's spirit.
Also remember that while you never want to be belittling or harsh, being "nice" all the time is an unworthy goal that will set you up for failure.
Part of signing on to be a parent who does right by their child (something you obviously value & are striving for) is the ability to handle thier times of rejection and displeasure that are inevitable when they don't always get thier way.
Hang tough Mom, it takes work, but if you've come this far you CAN do it.
EDIT:12!!! She is 12!!!? What are you not telling us? She is either seriously developementally challenged, overindulged , or more likely, both. I have worked with many parents of Special Needs children. It is NOT a mercy to not train her into socially acceptable habits. She is challenged enough in life without allowing ongoing behavoirs that will cause her further alienation.
There is a difference between learning (perhaps not possible) and training-definitely possible. Why has your school's Individual Education Plan ( or whatever it is called in your state) not focused on this? Are you not following through? Are you really serious, or is your question just a ruse?
If for real , then you need some serious personal & professional intervention for BOTH of you RIGHT NOW.
Please, get the help you need, it will be initially more challenging, but once you have gotten some of these basics under control, you will find life is a lot less about discipline (because you have created habits of self-discipline) and a lot more about enjoying each other's company.
Your children-all of them, need you to address this in a way that brings significant change ASAP. Maybe a formal residential facility will be the only way to break some of these lifetime of habits. During that time it would be CRITICAL for you also to to receive training and support so that as she returns home with more socially appropriate behaviors, you are in a position to keep them going & not revert to how things have been.
I get that you are overwhelmed, and the thought of more change may seem threatening, but honey you do need some serious help & you need it now! You will look back on it as one of the best decisions you ever made, for all of you.
sayin' a prayer for you all...
2006-11-30 21:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old she is. If she is like 3 and doing this it could be a normal thing. What i would do is reward her every time she goes on the potty with something small even if its just like a gummy bear or something. I would just watch her like a hulk and when she enters that bathroom be right by her and make sure she sits on the potty. Good luck .
2006-11-30 21:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she mentally challenged? If she is running around naked and relieving herself on the floor at 12 years old then I seriously recommend some kind of psychotherapy for her and you. Good luck with that.
2006-11-30 21:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Consult a doctor. If she is 12 years old I think you may want her assessed by a psych. When did this start? Is she normal (not delayed) sounds strange. I think you need to add some details.
2006-11-30 21:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by oosak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, how old is this child??? Put a diaper on her and teach her to go on the potty. There is a time when spanking is ok and this sounds like one of them.
2006-11-30 21:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by mason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12? ok. Keep her in a diaper. Have her wear them to school too. They have those Good Nights meant for older children....Maybe she will learn......Unless she is mentally challenged of course.
2006-11-30 21:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE'S 12!!! OMG!!! I would spank her and explain to her that she is not a dog, and should go to the bathroom like everyone else in the house. If this does not work, take her to a shrink.
2006-11-30 21:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. SmartyPants 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is honestly a problem in your home, I would suggest that you make her clean it-----immediately as others in your family can become very ill from this behavior, think of your other children, then seek help from a licensed professional.
2006-11-30 22:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go as quickly as you can to a Dr to be refred to a physcholigist for your daughter..something is terribly wrong. There is help for you..it needs to be professional help for you and your daughter...not somone from here.
2006-11-30 22:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋