Every single promise that he makes.... is not true. It's just a phony, a lie. I find it hard to trust his promises anymore, I take it hard when someone breaks their promise because that is a very strong word. He can't even keep ONE SINGLE promise =( Am I over reacting or do I have the right to be upset and ashamed?? PLEASE TELL ME.
2006-11-30 13:26:43 · 15 answers · asked by sogullablegurly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES, you should feel upset, and you're not overreacting. Sounds annoying and angering. I'm surprised he even asked you to marry him. Do you think he'll keep the promise to walk down the aisle? I had a man like that once. He promised to propose to me year after year after year. He promised he'd do it after he paid off his credit card. But when he did, he just bought himself a brand new car. Then he wanted a big projection television. Et cetera. It's hard to pinpoint exactly why some people do crap like that: lack of ability to commit, laziness, control, or just plain meanness. Talk to him about it...tell him that it makes you UNHAPPY, and be sure to stress that word. If you're unhappy, then it can lead you to fall out of love with him, and leave him. That should show him that he needs to be more trustworthy with you.
2006-11-30 13:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he can't keep something as simple as a promise how in the world do you expect him to be the kind of person you want to even marry... He shouldn't be your fiance and it's really that simple... give him the ring back and go and find yourself a real man...
2006-11-30 21:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally u have the right to be upset and u should break up with him
cuz u obviously dont and shouldnt want to be with a guy all your life that lies to u rite?
if u take promising seriously then dump him and find another guy that takes promising seriously too
2006-11-30 21:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by ☼tough lil cookie☼ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not over reacting maybe what u need to do is leave him alone and find someone who will not lie to you. My boyfriend was like this everything that came out of his mouth was a f***ing lie i had to get rid of him and i see him now he is still lieing. I told him one day u are a grown a** man and u still lieing you will always be by yourself u lieing a** piece of S*** and i never looked back after that. You don't need him once a liar always a liar. Believe me!!
2006-11-30 21:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right. If you speak to him he might even promise to you to never promise again.... I know how you feel as I feel hurt and betrayed when people do the same to me.....
Good luck with everything
2006-11-30 21:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by bvbw81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you overreacting? We don't know. If he promised to butter you toast, and forgot. Perhaps. If he told you he would get a Job and promised to keep it, and told you he would only smoke pot on days that end in Y, then no. Your not.
2006-11-30 21:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you need to re-think being engaged to this man. Is someone who values you and your feelings so little really the man that you want to be with for the rest of your life? I live my life by the quotation, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Your fiance is showing you plenty. Believe it! He is selfish and immature.
2006-11-30 21:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are with a person that is not ready to commit, or is very immature. if this is happening now, imagine what married life holds ahead for you, if i was you I would give it lots of thought, remember we cannot change anyone we can only change ourselfs.
2006-11-30 21:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by swt75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you doing with him then ? if he is not being truefull in one part of your relationship how can you be sure he is being faithfull? I am speaking from exsperience. dump him~! move on
next. take your time but dont get lost in his lies no more
2006-11-30 21:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Becka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have a definated right to be upset. he obviously have poor character u may want to reconsider marrying him. u dont want to put up with this forever.
2006-11-30 21:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋