If you g/f had your baby, and had to spend more time taking care of her than spending time with you, would you be all pissed off or understanding?? Would you be mad cuz you're 19 and ur life is over?? Would you blame her/leave her?? Would you help out or go out with friends?? Would you stop loving her??
2006-11-30 13:15:55 · 21 answers · asked by Nicoletta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What if you were the one that convinced her to have it?? Would you regret it now or be glad you have a child??
2006-11-30 13:18:21 · update #1
Your in for the long haul... Good Luck man... You are in our prayers
2006-11-30 13:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you need to check yourself and figure out what prompted you to have a baby at age 19. Rather that being a follower or loser, you need to start thinking on your own from this point forward. You need to make some substantive changes in your life, friends, habits etc. Most teens and young adults make these life long mistakes for lack of true direction and purpose. Unless you really understand why you, you, you made this error it won't matter how you respond to her.
Until you do this overdue needed analysis you won't be any good to her or your new child, because eventually you'll make another like long mistake, maybe another child later or some other bad decision. In order to understand the consequences of your acts you need to educate yourself and commit to change. It's not too late, your life is not over. Everyone gets a second chance however don't let chance create your fate. You must take control and create your own destiny through positive change and new habits. Seek out people who you normally don't talk to. That could be your own parents or some relative, an old coach, pastor , counselor etc. Get some advise for people that you know or know of that are doing what you want to do. Talk to your girlfriend about this idea, see what she thinks. Once you learn how to be a better person, you can then learn how to be a better boyfriend/husband, father.
2006-11-30 21:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by ts1246007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man damm i feel what your going threw cuz i was a dad at 20 and i was so happy cuz i was going to be a young dad and i was going to be young when my daughter was older and then came the 9 months man your girl changes a lot and you have to show her a lot of support then comes the doctor check ups but man when you hear for the first time your baby's heart beat man cant explain then the day of the birthday wow seeing how your baby comes to this world and cutting the cord and holding your creation priceless. but yes there's a but after comes post partemm i think that's what is called when she cant stand you and the time is all for the baby you have to cope with that and one tip dont move in with her cuz i did and wow but your son.daughter is a wonderful thing and hey listen to TOM LYKIS and dude just remember your child didnt ask to come to this world so be a dad and be there for your child about your girl if you love her not like or she is the mother i have to stay with her no LOVE her then work things out and dont blame her because you both did this ok later and take care of that baby.
2006-11-30 21:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by marcanthonyp69818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a chick of course lol but my man and i had our babygirl and we were just 19 and 18 we didnt plan it or anything we actually were a little scared and didnt think we were even ready for it but we stuck together and now we are married and love each other very much he works 15 hours a day 5days a week so we barely see each other but when we do we enjoy every bit of it it just depends on you what do you want to do truly in your heart you got to be understandin dont blame her it was both of you and help her out a little i know its going to be hard but if you love her this shouldnt change your feelings you can still go out with your friends too your life is just about to begin not end you'll see well hope this helped a bit good luck to both of you and your new baby!
2006-11-30 21:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by (¯`·.¸M裏å¸.·´¯) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG of course u stay with her and love her and understanding it and taking care of the baby and help out man your are the one make the baby come out this world.. and ur life is not over it just start...
2006-11-30 21:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by san 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's your child too, you should be helping you take care of it. Babies need alot of care, and if you didn't want to deal with that you shouldn't have gotten her pregnant. You needs to take responsibility for your actions. Whether you can handle it is up to him, but if you can't, you are still obligated financially. You have no reason to be upset, because you are half the reason the baby exists. You just need to take responsibility for what you have done. Good luck!
2006-11-30 21:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by killercrimson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get a salary based job.
2. Marry Her
3. Support her and the baby.
4. Begin a knew life.
5 Grow up, you made the mistake, now deal with it.
-James
2006-11-30 21:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by jameswilliamlong 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all that's your baby too but she is the one that has to take care of it. you should have thought about all of this before while you were making it. if your pissed off you should be pissed off at yourself for not using protection. your 19 yrs old you need to grow up and step up and be the man that your suppose to be to her and that child. finish your education, education is money and get a job and be responsible its enough one parent families.
2006-11-30 21:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by desperate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know who he is but you bith need to find a balance between what was what is and what is going to be surrounding this new three way relationship called a family
he is still him he wants to party and hang out still (19yrs old right) so go with him and get a sitter.
but you are now parents and need to take responsiblity for your new bundle of joy (both of you)
and presumably you need to find time for each other so that you can maintain what you had and want to have in the future. otherwise the rest could fall apart
2006-11-30 21:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by groovergabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I think you are out of your mind. You are the one who should be blamed!!
First of all that is your girlfriend and your baby, it is your responsibility to take care of them. When you have sex with her, did you use a condom!? I guess not! You enjoy have sex with her, but you don’t want to take the responsibility after that, then you are worse than a dog!
Regroup yourself, and be a good father and understanding boyfriend! Take good care of them and stop being stupid!!
2006-11-30 21:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by BB2791 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1, i'd be upset but understanding
2, being 19 with a baby does not mean your life is over
3, blaming her would be ridiculous, sperm + egg = baby
4, balance, i would help her as much as i could/she needed but i would also spend some time with my friends
5, you don't decide to love or fall out of love, it just happens
2006-11-30 21:20:48 · answer #11 · answered by mathyu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋