okay so what do you do when u've been in a relationship for 3-4 years and 2 babies now and your partner proposes? I mean i love him and all but im barely 20 years old and when we argue it's always like "Get out of my life...i hate you!!!!!!!!" what do u do in these occasions?
2006-11-30 13:12:34 · 10 answers · asked by blush3110 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If he was good enough to have babies with, why isnt he good enough to marry? Marriage isnt forever, kids are, youve already mad a HUGE committment at such a young age. Just wondering why you are concerned about it now.
2006-11-30 13:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd say that it is wise of you to question it and when you question it like that... you know it's not your time to tie the knot.
Marriage is forever... it's the biggest free will commitment you will probably ever make. Make sure when you do it, you are sure with not a shadow of a doubt that the man who asks is the man you want to die with. Please don't think that marriage is something you can just walk out on... it's too popular and very untrue. Keep up hope for the right man. The right person will more than likely be someone who encourages you to become a better person than what you are now.
Good luck!!
2006-11-30 21:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by amanda w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have 2 kids with this man and are only 20 then that is a red flag...if you don't want to marry him, that should be another warning sign. Get those kids out of that terrible situation before they get hurt, physically or emotionally.
2006-12-01 11:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you shouldn't have had 2 kids with him in the first place! you're not even 20!
you are always going to be connected to him because of the kids, so you have to deal with him whether you marry him or not. if you two hate each other, then why is he proposing? couples are always going to argue, but they should never say they hate each other, especially in front of the kids (i don't know if you argue in front of them or not).
re-evaluate your relationship. then go from there.
2006-11-30 21:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, that sort of fighting is not good. i was 14 when i started dating my ex and we were together six years and that sounds just like us. he was going to propose to me the year we split. I think i would have said no because of all the fighting. and then i met my husband and we got engaged after 4 months and knew it was right. If it feels wrong, dont do it!
2006-11-30 22:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by Arianrod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG why have 2 babies with someone you didn't want to marry? UNFREAKINBELIEVABLE that you are subjecting your kids to this garbage. Make a commitment, get married at the justice of the peace so your kids have a chance at normalcy, get some counseling and grow up.
2006-11-30 21:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by it's me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any feelings of doubt or question is a sign that its not a good idea. If it was what your really wanted you wouldn't have any question. Think of your future along with your children...being in a marraige that is not a happy one is a horrible thing on the people involved.
2006-11-30 23:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by coolchic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get into counseling. Go by yourself and go as a couple. The ways that you are fighting are "fixable" and you can learn to communicate better. When you really love someone, you are willing to compromise and WORK for the realtionship.
2006-11-30 21:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept his proposal. He must love ya. Do whats best for your children..there is a saying ' the best thing a father can do for his child, is love thier mother..."
2006-11-30 21:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by chicwitpurpose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't marry him, and move on with your life. You are not mature enough to deal with married life.
2006-11-30 21:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋