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my nephew wont stop hiting me we've tried everything. I NEED HELP!!

2006-11-30 13:00:42 · 13 answers · asked by Jessica W 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

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When my daughter tried hitting me I told her it was not okay. I placed her on her bed and told her she could come back when she could be nice.
This worked for hitting and biting.
It was recommended by our pediatrician.
This takes the child away from people and he will learn/realize fast that if he wants to be next to people he has to be nice.
There was no time frame since my daughter was under a year. If she repeated behavior we put her back. It did stop.

2006-11-30 14:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1 0

Sorry but he sounds like he's in need of some discipline, big time, if he's in the habit of hitting people at that age. Firm smack and time out will stop the habit hopefully. Its pretty simple, he's doing it because his parents haven't made him stop. You're not his mom so why listen to you? Kids do things like this to get attention and if they can get away with it. No rocket science here.

Since kids dont understand logic and reasoning till a much older age (ten?), the "calmly explaining" approach isnt gonna help with a toddler. If you dont catch them young, good luck trying to instill values and good behaviour as they grow older.

(This is assuming he's not being hit by someone and copying the behaviour, or that he's neglected and crying out for attention/love)

2006-11-30 13:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by HotHotMamma 2 · 0 1

Children at that age mimic what is done to them. Is the child being hit by anyone? The child might be acting out of a learned behavior. At that age, they don't formulate evil intent You need to unlearn this behavior right away. Is there a pattern to when this child hits? When the child is ignored? When the child is disciplined? The only way to successfully stop hitting behavior is show the child love, but do not reward bad behavior. Show your love by paying attention, playing, supporting...When hit withdraw these suddenly. But return just as quickly.

My guess someone is hitting this child either with or without your knowledge. At day care... neighbor kids...someone in your family.

If hitting a child makes the child better, how much of a beating should I give you to make you a better person? Yes, it sounds silly. I've said this to a woman beating her child at the airport. It scared her so much, her fear scared the child.

Violence of any sort is the admission of stupidity. If you are smart you can figure out a solution without violence. The kid is 18 months old, what is your excuse?

2006-11-30 13:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 3

BenDover reliable answer. My son is somewhat older 28 months and that i have a daughter of 9 years who on the time gave me problematical time also and they are nevertheless giving in a way or yet another:)lol inspite of the actuality that, by spanking you'll educate him that he ought to obey-and in case you do not then he gained't-so, there is the worry. it really is basic to spank, love yet no longer properly worth it for both. you won't be able to ignore it. With my son now 28. the different day he threw a toy and he's conscious of he might want to no longer, I ran to him and with an excellent reliable voice, I informed him: no, you do not throw issues i will take this toy now. and that i took the toy. He became sorry for it then. If as an get mutually he bites you: tell him no do no longer do this in the time of a reliable very reliable voice- no longer shouting youngsters do no longer understand what you assert once you shout- reliable, sluggish voice-somewhat bit educate mummy. inspite of the actuality that if he does it many times, do no longer provide up. he will finally develop out of it, purely save doing it. reliable luck mummy.

2016-11-30 00:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

SAme as what everybody else said and that is to tell him that it hurts your body and you do not like it. Also this is very normal for this age because he doens't yet know how to verberalize his feelings. Most children at thia age do not hit out of anger. You should also help him to express how he is feeling by trying to use his words or other actions.

2006-11-30 13:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I had the same promblem with my daughter. She's 22 months. When she hits I tell her "Don't hit. That hurts." She understands that she shouldn't hit and that it hurts. So keep drilling your nephew, he's not totally ignoring you. Kids will also try you, so you have to stay firm in discipline. Time is on your side, and with time he will stop. You have to continue to tap his hands, and tell him that he shouldn't hit and it hurts. Good Luck!

2006-11-30 13:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

have you looked really shocked and said - "you hurt me" and then let him now how this upset you?

you cannot teach a child not to hit by hitting them. disregard such utterly stupid advice. it's immoral, anyway, isn't it? to teach a child he may not hit others, others will hit him? It's really rather sick.

is he hit? is he in day care? if so, these two things make him far more likely to hit others and far more resistant to loving guidance from family.

if not, make it clear how upset you are that he does it, without giving him game like pleasure. i would say you should leave the room every time he hits you - if he enjoys your company. if he doesn't, he should be removed from what he's doing for about two minutes, sitting with someone else in another room who says, "We cannot let you hit auntie. It is wrong to hit people. We know you want to do good and we will help you control yourself until you can do it yourself."

2006-11-30 13:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0 3

You have to let him know that he has hurt you. If the child has problems speaking then that will be his aggresion coming out because he can't communicate with him. When he does hit you remind him that it is bad to hit and to let him know that it hurts you. My son is 2 and still does the same thing.

2006-11-30 13:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Make him sit down on the couch if that doesn't work tell him he is going to have to go to bed and take a nap.

2006-11-30 13:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Qt PIE 3 · 0 1

Don't say "Ow!" or scream when he does it because he'll just think it's a game. What you need to do is give him a taste of his own medicine. If he hits you, smack his hands. He'll stop hitting when he realizes how much it hurts.

2006-11-30 13:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 3 4

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