My mom is planning this elaborate x-mas dinner with her side of the family, my dad's side, and my b/f's family. ONE PROBLEM: I don't celebrate x-mas becuz I lost 12 people (family and friends) last dec. I want to not have to deal with all this. Is it too mean to break-up with my b/f on x-mas eve(but tell him my plan and get back together later) to ruin/cancel my mom's dinner?? He knows I dislike x-mas. He'll probably understand. Is it still too mean to do??
BTW: please don't ask how my family/friends died. It's too sad for me to think about.
2006-11-30 12:51:08 · 12 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she won't call it off. She says she wants our families to be close for when the baby is born. Him and I are 19.
2006-11-30 12:55:29 · update #1
That is a little too sneaky, in my opinion. Why don't you just try being honest and tell your mom because of what happened, you just don't feel up for doing anything elaborate this year?
2006-11-30 12:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by emt42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A much better way to deal with it might be just to explain that it is a sad and difficult time for you and that you would prefer to be alone. Then just don't go. I don't see why you have to create drama by breaking up with your bf and all that and by ruining your mom's dinner. Doing what you are suggesting seems kind of immature and unnecessary. If you need to take the time alone, then just don't go, but you don't have to ruin it for everyone else!
2006-11-30 20:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is mean to break up with him. You expect him to be on hold for you? Dont do very rash things. I would try to get over this or just dont participate in the events if it is that bad for you. But dont ruin everyone elses holiday! Probably waht you need the most is the support of your family and boyfriend at this time.
2006-11-30 20:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is really selfish actually. If you dont want to be a part of it just say so. why would you ruin a dinner which so many people are coming to? do you have something to gain? Actually i would probably break up with my girl for the same reason, but i wouldnt get back with her... GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-30 20:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by abazzabba 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First off I'm sorry for your loss.
Have you tried talking to your mom, if she will not call it off then yes use your plan. Just be sure to tell him it's not a real break up.
2006-11-30 20:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to let your mother have her dinner and maybe you should talk to your doctor for help........I am not trying to be mean but one day you will have to deal with it and you should start sooner than later.....good luck and god bless
2006-11-30 20:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When abazzabba says he'd probably break up with his girl too, what he actually means is he would "deflate her and put her back in the box." pffffffffffft
2006-12-01 16:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by DRAGON'S RETURN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for your lost, but that's not a excuse for u to do such a mean thing. its pretty selfish if you ask me. why don't u just go along with it? won't u feel bad to hurt your mom like that? please, get over it, and don't be so dramatic.
2006-11-30 20:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like your being selfish.. i too lost a lot of family arround christmas but it's not their fault.. you can't blame christmas.. everyone want's to get together and have fun, you should enjoy that
2006-11-30 20:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by kissed_by_a_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with your mom. Tell her how you feel. She will understand.
2006-11-30 20:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by Adelaide V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋