Well my guy friend comes to me one day after a long time and tells me that he wants me to be a better girl. meaning he wants me to start cooking, cleaning, ect for him again and making sure that he is alright. he said he wanted to work it out! so the very next day he says hes not sure that this relationship is what he wants
he says he needs space??? so then i get ready to leave and he wants to argue, i tell him he only gave me 24 hours. now hes really getting on my nerves! becuae he acts like a fool! saying little smart things and acting like he dosent say it.
is this his way of trying to scare me or what? becuse he aint made no moves to put me out or anything hes just acting mean when he wants to becuase he says hes scares i will hurt him
but hes not a very good guy himself... (check all my other questions) so some advice pleae
2006-11-30 12:46:42 · 22 answers · asked by gotchafool05 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't understand your post and I am surely not scrolling though the drama of your life to pick it up.
2006-11-30 12:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl... the ONLY time you start checkin up on your guy and cooking for hiim and cleaning and other mess is when you are his WIFEY!! Do you have a Tiffany's ring on that finger!? I did NOT think so! So, he should NOT expect you to act like his wifey if he aint willing to buy you the ring for it!
Want my advice?? I think you should leave this guy. He is trying to make a fool outta you! All that BS he is spittin bout how he need his space is bogus. How you gonna let him talk and be like that wit you!?
Girl... you need to leave this foo- and let him know he aint gonna be treatin you like that!!!
2006-11-30 20:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship sounds dead.
You both sound like you'd be happier if you move on, but are too comfy with the way things are & are scared to break it off.
My suggestion is to break up. If you find you can't live without each other, you can always get back together--a little wiser for the wear.
Good luck.
2006-11-30 20:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by die_laffing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really seems like he doesn't know what he wants, and if he has something good he doesn't know how to treat her right. Love is a two way street. It is not always up to the woman to cook, clean etc. It really sounds like he needs to grow up. It seems like u have it together. I would ask him out right want do u want and what do u expect of me? if u don't like his answers then u know it is time to leave. U need to think of yourself, your feelings, and how he is hurting them. Does he really love you? It seems like he wants a slave more than a girlfriend. someone he can boss around, make fun of and not care if he hurts ur feelings.
2006-11-30 20:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Andie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds to me like mental manipulation. He's trying to scare you into doing what he wants by threatening to leave you if you don't.
I haven't read your other questions, but from what I understand in this one, he wants you to be his maid, his mommy, and his girlfriend all at the same time. I will be very blunt, and tell you, life just doesn't work like that. Do not under any circumstances allow yourself to be bullied into doing what he says. If he leaves you, then so be it. You deserve to be with somebody who loves you for you, and doesn't try to control you with sarcasm, threats, and demands.
2006-11-30 20:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by snowfiregem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't looking for a lover and a partner, someone he can do nice things for, listen to and enjoy their company. HE IS LOOKING FOR A MOTHER. That's not what you signed up for. Give him his space and lots of it, you said it yourself "hes not a very good guy" and he is showing you exactly who he is!
Life is too short to take his crap! You are not someones maid, cook or booty call. You are very wise to see this and not like it, you should never do anything out of obligation- you owe him nothing! Your smarter than him!
2006-11-30 20:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by uzurhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...I would tell him that if he can't make up his mind and sit down and talk about what you guys want out of your relationship together (problems, how to fix them, what you want in it ect) then your gonna just pack up and leave. Cause even though he doesn't want you to hurt him, it sounds to me that he is hurting you. I wish you lots of luck.
2006-11-30 20:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just come to some realistic argreement
with him about what is fair and what each of
you can do. It comes down to enjoying each
others company. If you don't think it is fun to
please him and he doesn't think it is fun to please
you, then move on.
2006-11-30 21:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by farmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are wasting time on this guy. I wouldn't go for little voices from him, I don't like his explanations for things. My guess is that he's looking for a way to use you.
2006-11-30 20:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... To me it sounds like you have a problem that many girls out there have- your guy is an ***... tell him how you feel and if he wont change, find someone better for you.
2006-11-30 20:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋