What does it mean when a guy can never get it hard the first time he is with a new partner, but after that is fine and he has no problem getting hard with her? It's only the first time with a new partner. Why?
2006-11-30 12:28:45 · 20 answers · asked by Sweetgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you always the new partner (dressing up like someone else)?
Are you following this guy around from bedroom to bedroom?
Are you secretly a guy?
Or do you just have that many new partners?
How do you know this? It's probably just nervousness. This probably wouldn't happen if you knew your partner better before sleeping with them.
2006-11-30 12:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jade 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's the stress of performing for the first time with a new partner. Sometimes freaking out when getting ready to sleep with someone new will make a persons body react or not react, in this case. It doesn't sound very unusual. It's probably just performance anxiety.
2006-11-30 20:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a kind of psychosomatic disorder with excess of anticipation. In some cases it may also arise due to the fact of conscious and over conducive. By the way its good not to get hard all the time on a first date doesnt leave a too gud impression isnt it.
2006-11-30 20:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by my_5us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had that problem.What I think happens is they are exited about whats going to happen and at the same time they are overwhelmed about the prospect that they can't relax and let nature take over.
I'm not defending nor am I making excuses; It's just my thought .
He'll probably get hard later thinking about you and masterbate.
2006-11-30 20:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be a number of things,it's something new,has things on his mind when he's about to do it ,he could be under stress,if he's fine after the first time,why are U asking this question,at least he's able to perfom,I'd be asking if this happened every single time,I had a jerk I was seeing,that happened to me 3 times
fool could never perform,also drugs like cocaine will cause a man not to perform in bed,but I don't think that's the case with you
2006-11-30 20:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only times me having problwems getting it up, is either too much alcohol, or if I'm with a fat and/or ugly client, not enough alcohol.
2006-11-30 20:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf had the same problem in the beginning of our relationship...it's because he was very nervous and he really wanted to make it special and unforgettable for me (coz it was my first time), he was trying too hard and thinking about it too much...it happens sometimes...
2006-11-30 20:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's gotta be embarrassing for a man...I mean to get that worked up and then be unable to perform...nerves, stage fright and unfamiliar territory.
2006-11-30 20:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Betty Boop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy, he's just shy. Not all guys have that problem. But it just sounds like he needs to get comfortable (warmed up if you will).
peace and love,
rob
2006-11-30 20:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is nervous. With an old fame it's comfortable and familiar. A new person is new.
2006-11-30 20:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋