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Question

I learned I can hurt people by being smart and snotty and obnoxoius with my mouth to "cut a person down to size" that has hurt me. But you know what, this has gotten me nowhere fast and I am not a teen I am in my 30s. What are godly and prudent ways to deal with sacrasm, nasty people who put me down either on the phone at work or otherwise. I dont't want to fight anymore. I just want to grow up and go on with my life. What are godly ways to learn to be gentle?

Answer 1

I didn't no any godly ways to do it, but I'll tell you my way
1) you have a choice not to be snotty and obnoxious and be more serious and professional.

2) Being smart is to know when to speak and when to be quit

3) take charge of your situation as your were in command, think of what should you do or say

4) Taking criticism is bad but good to, learn from it, be what you intended to be, a cool commander knows people will try to kill his resolve and knowing that is where you use you brain and walk the line you have drawn

Answer 2

Proverbs 15:1 "A gentle answer turns away wrath." If every time someone does that to you, you respond the way you generally talk here on answers, which is with kindness and gentleness, I think those who are nasty to you will eventually find they don't enjoy doing it to you any more.
It's very hard to do that, though, because usually when someone is nasty, some really smart answer comes to our mind, and we think: "this is the one and only chance I will have to say this". To deny ourselves that doubtful pleasure takes some measure of sacrifice, but in the long run it is worth it. (I am preaching to myself here by the way. I have an awful tendancy to cut people down with sarcasm).
EDIT:
It is not true that "if people are getting to you there is a problem with your spirituality" as lady blueface says. If people can never get to you, then there is a problem with your humanity, you would be living like a robot, denying your feelings, and there would really be nothing spiritual about that. Being spiritual involves knowing how to forgive when people do hurt you, not denying that you can be hurt. That would be pride.

Answer 3

Well, Jesus did say in the Bible that we will be hated by many because of his name. I just ignore the ignorant and feel sorry for them because their actions are the result of the lack of God in their lives. Pray for them! It really does work. I use to be sarcastic and such, but that was before I was saved and when I was practicing wicca (filthy witchcraft). After I became a born again Christian, and started to follow in God's ways, I just started to be nicer, although I still get a little sarcastic when some people get me upset, I later I start to feel guilty and pray about it. It is the ones out there that don't notice how really bad they act until they are saved.

Answer 4

For starters," You can learn to be nicer and less spoiled by hanging around religiousless people like me", I'm more than kind than the average Christian around the world. But, to get right to the point, if you want to be more gentle with friends and loved ones then hang out with people who don't care about "the best" or "being better than thou". Just hang out with people who are more down to earth than the snotty people are acting like!

Answer 5

Stop and let the conversation lag for a long minute, then restate to redirect the conversation back to the original topic. Use the nicest, most measured and restrained voice you can, and force yourself to SMILE while you do it. (Even if you don't feel a smile, putting one on physically actually sounds different in your voice.) What you are doing with this is called "distracting and redirecting". It deprives the smart mouth of their fun by ignoring the insult.

Answer 6

Take some time, maybe at the mall or the park to look around at all of the different types of people. Try to envision what their lives are like. What hardships do they go through, at school, work, home. Just take some time to try to "put yourself in their shoes" and see if it doesn't change the compassion you have for strangers.

Blessed Be

Answer 7

Tell them "May God Bless You Friend, I am sorry if I have offend you". At night pray for that person that God would give them everything you would want for yourself, and mean it. You may need to do this for many nights and even weeks, until you really mean it when you pray for them. You're growing and that's beautiful. You are correct, life is way to short for hostility, anger or resentments. That person is your fellow child of the Father whether you can see it now or not. God see's All. We are all his beautiful children.

Answer 8

Refuse to engage. The only person who loses is you. You only reaffirm the other person's opinion if you retaliate as expected. Remind yourself that the only way a person can harm you verbally or emotionally is if you let them matter. If you do not know the person or do not care what they think then you should ignore them, or better yet be nice to them. Then you have given the ultimate insult to them by a)letting them know you do not value their opinion and b)showing them up as the better person. And you have not let yourself sink to their level or resorted to childish games of mudslinging. People who insult you are more times than not, trying to hide an insecurity within themselves. Do not let them hide behind yours.

Answer 9

Pray as they rant,pray for them to be blessed.Do not react the way you want to,and you will be greatly blessed.Its time for you to stop reacting in your flesh so God will be glorified,You already know this.Thats the first step to change,just do the complete opposite of what you have done in the past.Maybe listen to worship music at work.Be blessed and loved and good luck

Answer 10

Sarcasm always bothered me when I heard it,cause its bitterness wrapped up as a clever witticism.
Try to be genuine and sincere.
Take a deep breath when you are about to snap back into old ways,then give it all your best to give a wise response,kinda like Spock. Or someone detached from the situation.