I love my girlfriend of 7mo. We are both 24 and are university students. Problem is that we are of different "races" and her parents just don't approve. She doesn't want to go against the wishes of her dad. She has made her mind that she wants to be with me 3 times, each ending when the family gives her a "talk" about how wrong our relationship is. I have committed myself to this relationship and have been carrying most of the weight from day one. Were do I draw the line? At the most stressful time right after the parents do something she tells me to let time tell us what will happen and is not willing to talk to her parents about this. I have really been drained by the relationship by now. I love her more than anything and she is amazed by how much I care about her but when is enough just enough? I don't want to lose her but I'm deteriorating and she is not willing to stand up for us. I don't know how much more I can take and I really don't want to lose her.
2006-11-30 12:17:01 · 4 answers · asked by TheT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have told her all this btw.
2006-11-30 12:17:52 · update #1
A family approval rating does mean allot no matter what anyone says. She has to tell her parents and let the chips fall where they may, or cut you loose. Yeah, time will tell. Go on about your lives and maybe someday your paths will cross again and things will be different. Years may pass or she may realize sooner that you are the one for her. I know its easy to say. hard to do. Good luck to the 2 of you.
2006-11-30 12:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe how common this problem is in today's society. I would eventually have an important conversation about the state of the relationship with her. In this conversation, say that if she is unwilling to stick up for the relationship and stay by you and not always listen to the parents, that the relationship will end. If she really loves you, she will stick with you. If she is unwilling to defy what her parents want and not take a stand, then she really doesn't love you.
Good Luck!
2006-11-30 20:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Danny G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you intend to marry her? one of the problems might be that her parents think you'll just get her pregnant and desert her, ESPECIALLY if they already have a bad view of your race (is she east Asian? south Asian?).
i would say talk to her dad personally, but that may work, or her dad just might get even more upset.
you two could always elope. i know how that sounds, but my cousin wanted to marry a white guy, and her dad wouldnt let her. she ran off w/ them, and she's married now and perfectly happy and my uncle forgave her.
i honestly dont know what to say. i wish you good luck.
God bless you!
2006-11-30 21:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Neha S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should move on it obvious that your girlfriend is not willing to stand up to her parents about you guys being together, if she did she would let them know that she loves u and that's all that matters she would not be thinking over whenever they talk about u,stop wasting time on someone who doesn't care for u as u do for her.
2006-11-30 20:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by leecy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋