My boyfriend cheated on me!?

Question

My boyfriend cheated on me and I now he did but I dont know to dump him or confront him what should I do!

Answer 1

Oh I am so sorry to hear that. If he really did, then you deserve much better. You should still ask him and see if it is true or not, and it is really up to you what to do. Breaking up with him is probably the best idea, if he really did cheat on you. Good luck!

Answer 2

Confront him about it and ask him what happened. If he cant be straight with you then he has to be kicked to the curb. If he admits it. Tell him you are glad he was honest now, but he should have been in the first place, not just when he was caught out. Then tell him you have some thinking to do and you need space and time. Go on a few dates get out with your friends and most of all start feeling better about yourself before making a decision. Then after a week you can talk to him and tell him then really what YOU want.

Answer 3

Hello:

I've been cheated on before, but I saw it happen. I didn't have to question whether or not to confront him, because he his cheating was intentionally done in front of me. And yes, our relationship was very disfunctional.

So as I immediately left the party we were at, he chased after me. He told me that he cheated on me because he wanted me to notice him. See we often fought because he was an incredibly jealous person, while I was incredibly trusting. He would see me talking to a guy and freak out, and I always trusted that he was being faithful to me. He took my trust to be me not caring enough for him, and so his cheating was an attempt to "make me care". Even if that is really why he cheated on me, I was too upset at the time to make a decision about our relationship. As horrible as it is to be cheated on, I thought I was in love with him and needed time to think.

I did end the relationship. I realized that I would have never cheated on him, because I respected him and simply couldn't do that to someone I had feelings for. But be prepared, my ex said the most wonderful things to try to win me back. It was incredibly difficult to turn him down.

I think you should first confront him. But try to not be so angry that you don't get a confession from him. I'm guessing you didn't catch him in the act, and that he hasn't confessed to you. So before you break up with him you want to make sure that he really did cheat on you.

And as to break up with him, that's your decision. I'd say if he hasn't been able to confess, than he probably won't be faithful to you in the future. But then again, I don't know your boyfriend so I can't really tell you what decision to make.

Is your relationship worth saving? Are you willing to make the effort to save it? Is he?

I hope this helps, and good luck.

Answer 4

Don't just turn around and cheat on him, it can only lead to more drama. Tell him you know, how you know, and dump him. Forget about him. Move on. If a guy is going to cheat on you, it means you weren't right for each other in the first place (and the problem is probably on his end).

Answer 5

Confront him. Dump him. Guys who cheat often never change. I say no to second chances.

Answer 6

Hey keep you chin up and be strong. You just need to tell him that you know what he did and it is not acceptable in your standards. Do you really want to dump him or want to keep him around? If you want to dump him, just do it and get over it, There are a lot of guys out there that will not cheat on you. You deserve better. If you want to keep him around, tell him what the boundries are and what will happen if he crosses them, You are not being too pushy by doing that. Everyone has boundries in a realtionship, just not everyone tals about them. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 7

Get evidence and confront him then dump him for being a sleaze. If you don't feel safe confronting him in person, make sure you do it somewhere public or take a friend along who can stand back a bit to give privacy but who also gives you moral support.
Good luck

Answer 8

If you really KNOW (like saw him in the act or something) just tell him He really messed up and that you know about him( without telling him everything) and leave him alone, ignore his calls and everything and it will drive him crazy....if he ever cared about you the guilt will kill him inside and he will come back and tell you if he never comes back he never deserved you......If you don't know for sure (he said, she said or something you found) don't leave him and DONT confront him (he will just talk you out of it and make you believe him) just develop a well thought out plan to REALLY catch him, have a woman friend thats real sexy( that he doesn't know) come on to him and take it from there. If he falls for it make the woman invite him to her house, wait in the bedroom closet and when things start happening, step out without saying a word and wait for him to see you, nod your head and then leave him, he will carry that memory his whole life and again.....he doesn't deserve you

Answer 9

Let him know how you feel -- If you don't let him know, he is going to just continuously keep cheating on you. See what happens from there..If something worse happens or he says something rude, dump him, but if he apoligizes (like he really means it) explain to him that he gets one last chance or something. Be strict about it, if he is acting like dating is just all a little game. Hah. Hope I could help :)

Steph♥xox

Answer 10

Once cheater is always a cheater. The worst thing that can happen in a relationship is when the person you love cheats on you. Dont talk to him. Leave him.