i'm sooo angry with my parents?

Question

my parents will not let me go to see my long-time boyfriend tonight...they usually let me....i asked them why they won't let me....and the on;ly answer they gave me was that "because i didn't go to school on tuesday" (because i was sick!) what should i do? should i go see him anyway...this would mean sneaking out and possibly getting in even more trouble.... another side note.....my boyfriend don't get to see each other monday through thursday... the only days i see him are friday...saturday...and on some thursdays

another side note....i'm 17....and my boyfriends already proposed to me...i of course i said yes.... but the thing is my aprents approve of the whole thing....they actually helped him plan how to suprise me with the proposal....another thing....he lives about 40 miles away too.

Answer 1

I will have to side with your parents on this one. It is not that they don't trust you or don't love you, but they just want to put some boundaries and limitations. After all you are underage and they are your guardians, therefor they are boss.

Answer 2

It sounds like you already answered your own question. As you so wisely noted, sneaking out will more than likely only invite more trouble.

So, I guess if you want more trouble, then, yeah, go for it. If you want to steer clear of trouble, then be brave, suck it up, and get through it. It's just one day. And eventually the day when you will have your parents permission to go and see him will come.

So let me ask you this, if you don't mind. Why do you have to be the one to go and see him? Have you asked your parents if he can come to the house? Maybe part of the reason is they're afraid that getting out in the cold might make you sick again. And, also, if the reason you're the one to go to see him is a transportation issue with your boyfriend, and if he really wants to see you, will it hurt him or hurt the relationship for him to be the one to put forth some effort into this? To me, if you're the one who always has to make the effort, that's seriously out of balance there, don't you think??? That might also be something your parents are starting to object to.

By the way, have you asked them - in a calm, sane way - what their concerns are as far as your having missed school and the connection that it has to seeing your boyfriend? If you ask in a respectful way, you will probably get a respectful answer that will make sense to you if you will stop and really listen to what they have to say.

Answer 3

What is with you young people today?? Your 17, did someone sell you a promise that marriage is bliss? Life does not work that way. The people you will run to when you need clothes and food, who will love you well after you are married and gone from home, are there now trying to keep you from making the mistakes a lot of us did growing up. All teenage girls should go prepare themselves for the working world before marriage, that way when the "Rose colored glasses come off" and the husband you thought you knew runs off with another girl you will be able to depend on yourself. Young love is great and the boyfriend girlfriend thing is alright for now. But life is not fair and people change. Focus on school and the relationship with your parents. They are the ones that stand beside you when the marriage falls apart and the boyfriend breaks your heart.

Answer 4

There are different ways to look at it. So it depends on your values system. But there are three opinions, your's, your boy friend's, and your parent's. But you should be modest and respect your parents decision. If your boyfriend sees that you are against your parents he may fear that you will not make a suitable obedient wife. But if your boyfriend wants you to sneak out of the house and meet him, then he does not care if you have such a potential to be such a chased wife, then he may simply be using you because he is sexually attracted to you (owing to the imaturity of youthful lust, unchecked). You could ask for each of your parents reasoning perhaps, but the reason seems to be to suggest some kind of self disipline should be practiced. Though that should truely be based on some well defined value system (not common these days). Honor thy father and Mother. We tend to be impatient, just think of how much you will love your boyfriend after not seeing him for so long. Sneaking out of the house is probably the worst idea, unless you have an escort, such as your boyfriend. Good luck.

Answer 5

dont go, unless there is some rly rly special occasion tonight like a prom night or something. if you dont go today the world is not going to collapse. try to score points with your parents by obeying them. they'll also respect your feelings and wishes in return. talk it out with your parents if that is the only reason or something else. i think there is more to it why they dont want you to go tonight. they cant be so unreasonable if they have let you meet your bf at other times. try to understand their point of view and see if there is anything in it for you. parents always do everything in the best interest of their children. and children always misunderstand and think whatever they are doing is wrong and unjust at that moment. but maybe if you think camly from their point of view you will know WHY?

Answer 6

Your parents have established boundries for a reason. Why can't you respect their rules and wait to see your boyfriend on the days you normally see him? Same rule applies in my household, you don't go to school, you don't go out. Period. Sick or not sick. If you can't make it to school, for whatever reason, then you're not well enough to go out and socialize. It's that simple. Sneaking out of the house will only show disrespect towards your parents, and they will further lose trust in you, because you refuse to abide by their rules.

Answer 7

Don't sneak out. If you get caught they won't trust you any more & then its all over. Try calmly giving them rational reasons to let you go, and/or ask if he can come over and you can all hang out together - maybe watch some TV or whatever your family normally does. Once they see you two just hanging out acting normal & maybe they get to know him better they'll give you more freedom. I have a 16 year old stepdaughter, & this is how we got to know & trust her boyfriend.

Answer 8

try talking to your parents about it.i know how you feel completly and nothing would be better than letting them know your feelings
i know it would be hard but it could be worth it so talk to them.sneaking out would be a bad idea and deffinatly make it worse dont even think about it.if they still dont let you go try instant message on the computer or cell phone you can never go wrong with a good talk.

a caring friend,
alaina

Answer 9

You must accept the boundaries your parents set for you, and it is okay to learn to be patient. Ask them when you CAN go see your boyfriend. Say thank you, and wait. Good behavior is usually rewarded with trust and the privileges that go along with the trust.

Answer 10

If i was u i would just listen to them and try some other day. I'm not tring to be mean or anything. Oh by the way if u don't mind me askin how old are u?? But just ask them one more time and if they say no then try some other day ok.

Answer 11

When you live under you parents roof you must abide by their rules. Yes, this is inconvenient. Soon you will be married and in your own home with your husband, it won't be a problem then. Just wait it out until then.