Where are all the decent men who don't smoke, drink, lie, or have kids?

Question

I am in my 20's, and it's just crazy how there are no decent guys around.. ANYWHERE! I don't drink, smoke, go to bars or clubs. I don't have kids, and I have never been married. I am a nice girl, and I have not come across ONE decent guy in my whole entire life, but I live in America where people don't understand the word LOVE. Should I move? LOL

Answer 1

Right here. ;-) (You can stop looking.)

Answer 2

I said the same thing about women. I don't want kids, don't smoke, and don't use drugs. Where are all the women that don’t smoke, don’t use drugs, are not religious, don't have kids, and don’t want kids? Drinking is OK, as long as she does not drink too much.

I met one young lady, that matched the description pretty close, but she was much younger than I, and clearly had a drug problem.

I met another nice lady while traveling that had a major crush on me. But, she wants kids! I also had met my girlfriend, by then, so I was not avaiable.

I tried bars, but all of the women my age smoked or had kids. I ended up dating women with kids, and that was nothing but trouble.

I finally started dating on the internet. That did the trick. I was able to say up front. I met my girlfriend there. We have been together for 4 years.

The magic of the net is you can say up front what you want. You can go on a first date. If he is a dud, then move on.

Answer 3

Just take a deep breath and realize that nice guys don't go to bars or clubs for the same reasons that you don't like bars or clubs. You'll have to get involved in a group that likes to do the things you ALREADY enjoy, like hiking, photography, etc. If you are in a town of any size there are many societies/clubs that you can join. From there you are bound to run into someone that doesn't smoke and thinks about something other than getting all up on you.

Answer 4

To start with the decent guy is a myth. All men are pigs, as I can tell you being a card carrying swine myself. That said moving to the moon wouldn't help as ALL MEN ARE PIGS. Now really, you are 20 years old, most of the guys you know are young and they are lead by their urges. All men remember their teens and early 20s and that's why later in life they are so protective of daughters. When you are a little older look for a serious relationship. Young men have to grow into decent guys.

Answer 5

We are around, looking for the same thing. Be honest though we don't like bars or clubs and since we don't drink or smoke it prolly means we don't like parties. So we are usually home or out somewhere else where ppl don't usually meet. Maybe we should wear a shirt that says "I'm a decent guy ask me out" hahaha

Answer 6

I would not move because this happens everywhere, I live in Canada and when it comes to men they are the same here and everywhere. Maybe try joining a book club, or a church group or volunteer for something and see if you meet a man there. There are decent men out there! Best of luck!

Answer 7

Most men who fit this description are way too shy to even come on to a girl. The ones that you don't want seem to have all the balls in the world!!!

LOL, I feel your pain.

Answer 8

i am looking for a girl that is tired off all the games and wants a serious realationship. i am single with no kids but i would love to have some someday. i also don't drink or smoke.. here my email address if you want to get to know a sweet honest cute guy.. [e-mail]

Answer 9

I don't smoke, drink, or lie to the one I love lol.

I was single 4 years ago

Answer 10

i think u can consider yourself very lucky if u find the one...dosent matter if u live in the us or in europe (or anywhere else)...
its just the way it is

Answer 11

i have a good answer. all of the decent men are gay, in jail, living in there mother's basements, or have not been born yet.