My Dad passed away two months ago, my Mom's on disability and I am the only one who is able to work since I have no siblings. I had a dr.'s appt. today to discover that he recommends knee arthroplasty for a torn meniscus, and release of a pinched nerve. How can I possibly consider surgery when I have a mortgage to pay? How much more must I deal with?? I already live from pay check to pay check. I can't afford to miss work but I'm told the damage in my knee won't get better on it's own either. Please tell me what I should do?? I don't want to end up homeless or unemployed.
2006-11-30 11:48:34 · 8 answers · asked by ace 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I just started a full time job two weeks ago and I work per diem at another, I don't have disability insurance and I do work sit down jobs.
2006-11-30 12:00:51 · update #1
I just started a full time job two weeks ago and I work per diem at another, I don't have disability insurance and I do work sit down jobs.
2006-11-30 12:01:15 · update #2
I am older than 18 and my Mom relies on me very much. Sometimes I wish I could trade spaces with my Dad but I know that's not possible and as far as family is concerned--they don't care about my Mom and me, they never have.
2006-11-30 12:08:44 · update #3
You are going to have to get the knee repaired. A neighbor went through this and was up and dancing in no time. If you dont take care of you, who is going to tend to the rest of your life or the other people in your life? I have arthritis (dont know what kind) and had to babysit two boys for eight to ten hours a day, plus my mom's doctor appointments and tend to one husband who had a MI several years ago...oh, how I wish for a job....
The employer and mortgage people will offer help if you tell them of your pending hospitalization....Good luck and God Bless
2006-11-30 12:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about this. Your age has a lot to do with things. Are you over 18? If you are under 18 then the state has to help. If you are older then why are your parents a issue in the first place? Were you living with them and relying on their income or them relying on you? Are there any other family members to help you besides siblings? I know there seems more questions then answers but the government will ask the same. Do you not have disability through work? Hang in there! Contact your local charity organizations and churches to help with food . Let your creditors know ahead of time of your upcoming surgery and get a extension on your utility bills. People are willing to work with you if you let them know you are willing.
2006-11-30 20:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by twildman22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do you have worker's comp and disability coverage? even if it didnt happen at work, you can go on disability for a while. stay off your feet for a while, then go back to work on a seated job or something. you'd still be employed, but for medical reasons, you cant work. if you've worked there long enough, then disability should be decent. look into your insurance as well because sometimes they give money to you if you're out of work.
dont think of the whys right now, dont worry about praying, consider what HAS to be done and be relentless in making it work. devotion and hard work CAN still get you someplace.
worry about the why down the road when it's all past
2006-11-30 19:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by HW-7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your doctor for agencies that can help you pay or lower the cost overall.
Call social services and see if they can help or direct you to help.
If you have insurance, see how much you will have to co-pay.
If you are a church goer, ask your church leader for advice.
It sounds like you've gotten more than your fair share of stress lately. Your county probably offers grief counsel ling for free or almost free (like $5). Give them a call.
Hope any of those help.
2006-11-30 20:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Avalon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ace:check our your long l term care facility or nursing homes they have respite units for short stays. Your mother may be able to stay there while your getting better
2006-11-30 20:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will never give you more than you can handle. He is with you always. God understands all that you are going through. Pray to God, talk to Him. Ask Him to give you strength. You have to take care of yourself if you are to take care of your Mom. God bless you.
2006-11-30 20:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by thesebootsaremadeforwalkin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray. It's what I do when I'm feeling down. I hope that you're life will get better soon!
2006-11-30 19:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by the golden goose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get two jobslike most people do!!! If i were you id ask a relative to help me out!
2006-11-30 21:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by *Native Pride* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋