I have two girls 17 1/2 months and 10 weeks. I went back to work 3 months after I had my first daughter and she stayed with my mom, now I will be going back to work with my second daughter after about 3 months, they will both be staying with a nanny...who I know and is very nice. But why can't I get over this huge guilt I have? I have more guilt this time than the last...also I am going to be putting in up to 5 days a week. With my last daughter I put in 4 days/wk. I have this huge depressing guilt weighing on my shoulders...please help. I am not good at staying home either, I waste most of my day (if I stay home) on the computer or in front of the tv, although I clean when needed and cook a couple of times a week. I'm afraid of becoming a stay at home mom.
2006-11-30 11:48:06 · 8 answers · asked by mom of 2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honestly, not every mom is equipped to stay at home with the kiddies. Some
people can stay active and feel fulfilled. I was one of these moms. I took
care of other children who had moms who wanted to work outside the home.
I never judged these women, and I don't think they judged me. We were
all doing what we were good at and enjoyed. You need to relax and go with
your feelings. You want to work outside the home. then do it. Check back
and make sure it is still making you happy down the road. If so, continue.
Life is not that complicated. Guilt is evil. Everyone needs to get past the
guilt of doing what we need to do. Nothing good ever came out of guilt.
Get rid of it. You and your family will be better off.
2006-11-30 11:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by sunnymommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I stay home with my children. I gave up my career to be with my children. I don't regret it either. I've been able to see all of the mile stones that my kids have had. Mine are 6 and 7. I volunteer about 3 days a week at the school where my children are and I'm very involved in their school. You probably feel worse this time because your mother isn't going to be keeping the children. I wouldn't feel as bad if my mother kept them but a nanny to me I would never do unless it is mandatory. I believe that when women have children that should be their primary responsibility. You should try to stay home and see how it goes. You can take the kids and go to the park or walking or something very constructive like that. Just remember that when they get older you have lost the only chance you will have to see your kids grow up. If you died today would you want your last thoughts of work or your kids. Good Luck
2006-11-30 12:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Julie J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may do what's nice for you and in working you're offering to your loved ones. If there's a manner you could artwork much less and nonetheless make ends meet, it would be a sturdy element of course. If no longer, then i might say make those 2 hrs at night very high quality filled, provide her a rubdown after her bathtub and examine her a narrative....take her to the park on the weekends or take a rapid walk around the community nightly. you could appreciate time mutually and nonetheless do the failings you may do professionally...that's annoying to juggle...I easily have 4 young ones and artwork (far off from domicile basically approximately 12 hours an afternoon) it is no longer ordinary. basically bear in mind in working you're looking after them. sturdy luck...might God bless you and your loved ones and make your course clean and non violent!!!
2016-12-10 19:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children should come first. Not after work or after TV or computer or anything else. Do whatever is necessary to be with them. Stay at home moms raise happier and healthier children. What wrong with that?
2006-11-30 11:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by sm4125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its simple, do not work unless you have to. If you do stay home with them, its not right to be online or watching TV all day. Children need fresh air and need to be outside. If you are busy ignoring them, then you mine as well leave them with someone else and continue working.
2006-11-30 11:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who can stay at home with their young children are fortunate, but there is no good reason to feel guilty if you are unable to do so and they are with someone you trust. Just make sure you enjoy the time you do have at home with them!
2006-11-30 11:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would of felt better if you said you were working so much to give your children a better life, but if you don't take your free time to be with them and love and play with them maybe they are better off with the nanny.
2006-11-30 12:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Becky ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a stay at home dad that loves kids and works from home, like me
2006-11-30 11:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋