i still love my ex?? what is he thinking??

Question

My ex rang the other night and sed he thinks he wants me back and that he misses me loads and im his best friend and he fancies me bla, bla, bla so then we started talkin about gettin bak+i sed if he sleeps with ne1 while we'r makin a go of things its not gonna happen.then he told me he had already slept with a girl.i was so shocked and i sed if he had ne intension of gettin me bak that he wudnt hav slept with her?he sed it was horrible with her tho and he felt guilty.now hes sayin he just wants me as a friend.im confused.he rings me up crying then the next day hes fine.im sure he loves me bcos of the way we were.what do i do to win him bak?am i mental 4 wantin him bak?he did kiss a girl wen we were 2getha thats y we split.wots goin on?do u think he wants me really? please give loads of comments
thankyou xxx

my ex-boyf go's to a music school and im in an art college!

Answer 1

he is thinking of you, didnt read the rest of your stuff but yea, tell him whatever.........

Answer 2

you cant count anything that was after the break up and before the return. People got to live too. I would sit this one and wait for a while. The best thing is to do nothing becuase he has to make the effort at this point. I would be cautious since his emotions seem wishy washy. He may end up getting you back and dumping you the next day. Until you are secure that he really only wants you, I would take it slow. Dont let on any negative emotions, just be calm. Thats the best way to work with it.

Answer 3

some ex better halves are offended because -- fairly probable -- their husband(s) wanting to "overlap", starting up with destiny (next) spouse even as nevertheless married and by no ability determining complications in marriage with their contemporary significant different. (it really is a huge huge difference if the marriage has already ended -- legally and obviously so as that both activities comprehend that's over -- and then ex-husband famous a sparkling love. with somewhat of luck, he will have taken care of out the own complications which brought about him to go away his previous marriage or he negative aspects wearing those ahead into the hot courting. similar is going for the ex- spouse too.) even as a guy paying baby help in finished and on time is admirable (thinking what number "useless beat dads" there are), the money isn't any replace for a very contemporary, fingers on, contained in the abode and in contact with the youngster(ren) father. It takes 2 to make a toddler. it really is the position or perhaps as parental duty starts.

Answer 4

I think you know what you want to do. He probably isnt sure what he wants. But I think you should confront him and tell him how you feel and that you want to give it another shot! But make sure you lay down a little bit of ground rules....but don't let it scare him away. Go into this with an open heart, especially since you still have feelings for him. There must be something special about him...your not mental for wanting him back. There are things we just cant explain sometimes. But I really hope the best for you!
~good luck! much love, Fi

Answer 5

Welllllllll ...I'm sure he does have some feelings for you hun as he wouldnt be still contacting you if he didn't..He would have walked totallly otherwise. However he still sounds very confused to me. I mean "the sex was horrible!"...Come on hun ..lets get real !..I am no expert in this areal=..But surely a man "has to have some sort of turn on to be able to manage it all.?My advice would be ...Give it time..let him work it out for himself !..If he really wants you...then he will stop having random sex sessions with others who he claims not to care for and then concentrate on putting things right with you... He wants you as a friend...lol...We all know what that means hun...He wants you dangling on a string whilst he plays around and makes his mind up!He doesnt know what he wants himself at the moment..and if he doesnt,then how the hell can he expect you too? Just keep telling yourself that you deserve better ...tell him this too...and then refuse to speak to him until he has grown up..respect yourself hun..its the best advice that anyone could give you...You wont get it back until you do!...Best of luck hun...

Answer 6

Your situation sounds like mine except my bf is who has the ex of 3 years. They split up 3 months ago, and I've wondered if they've continued talking. He and I go to school in VA. Are you from MN by any chance? Just post an answer to my most recent question and let me know...this could be a very small world if it's the same guy.

Answer 7

He's your ex. Ex means he can do whatever he wants. You are very controlling to judge him for what he did after you broke up which doesn't involve you. I say both of you start dating other people because you both seem to immature to be in a relationship. This is not an insult, I wish I was young and immature and had my whole life ahead of me.

Answer 8

I think u know the answer anyway. you look and sound as if ur trying to drink the problem away.

make sure u don't hurt each other and work thru ur problem in a friendly way, bearing in mind that twinkle in ur eye.

don't think i didn't notice.

good luck 2 u both

Answer 9

The more he cares about you, the more time he will try to spend with you. That's how you'll know if he's really into you. By the amount of time he spends--or wants to spend--with you. Time is the most precious commodity that anyone has to give to someone else.

Answer 10

,move on if he sleeping with a norther woman what does that tell you you could do better then that it will take time to get over him . he does not respecting you. you no in your heart that's not right don't be a fool be stronger and wait before you think about getting into a norther rel ship, give your self time to get over him. it really up to you.

Answer 11

It sounds like he wants what he can't have...(my same prblm) He likes the actual 'chase' with you...and when he sees you are ready to go back, he is okay with just being friends. It sounds to me that you should make up your mind for yourself as to whether you really still want him back, and stick to that decision...communicating to him the depth you want him(if you love him-he should step up to that) It kind of sounds like he is playin games though or not sure of himself, for himself.
Good luck :)