how do i gain confidence to ask a hot girl out?

Question

look im afraid of rejectoin, and ive been turned down like 4 times, i know not a lot, but i also dont have confidence cuz i dont hink i can compete with people and now i work out like crazy, play sports like football and wrestling for my school and im a jr. and 17 yeas old, i just hate it when i see a girl a i know that i dont have a chance with at all, i mean like y cant i be like the guys off of the show "Beauty and the geeks" they learn how to talk to the hot girls and what not, i think i need that kind of help, and people tell me tobe myself, i dont think i know how to be myself, well thanks for your time, i hope your answers work but i dont know

Answer 1

Being a former h.s. hot chick, I can tell you a secret.... guys are afraid to ask out hot chicks, and we don't get to date as much as you think. Only the brash, ballsy, loud guys would ask me out... woopie...or I had to be the aggressive one and practically ask the guy out myself. So, don't be afraid, just think of a good compliment, ask for something not risky (buy ya a soda?), or even the " a group of us are going to *movie name here*, would you and your friend *name* want to go?" ploy and go for it. It gets you in the game at the least.
Rejection? it is a part of life... the sooner u learn to take a risk and maybe win sometime the more confident u will become. The more confident u become, the more attractive u are. Good luck, hope this helps!- dd

Answer 2

When you are 27 and thinking back to high school, what you will remember and regret is NOT doing something like asking a girl out. You won't remember at all the ones that said no.

Living life means getting out there and making a fool of yourself and laughing about it. The people who have fun are the ones not afraid to embarass themselves.

OK, go to this hottie and say "Hey, would you be willing to give me some advice on dating?" Who's ego doesn't like being asked for their opinion? Then say "There's this girl I think is special, everybody does, but I'm afraid she'll shoot me down. What do I do?"
By now, she's on your side, she's your confidant....she wants to help. She will ask "Who is she?" And you say "It's you Rebecca"

She will either be blushing or she'll be a *****. If she's nasty, you gave it a shot and she doesn't deserve you anyway.

Answer 3

All you have to do is believe in yourself remembering that, so what if she says no.

Just catch the girl when no one is around her and just ask her, if she says no, don't worry. That's just someone from above telling you that she's not for you. You will eventually find someone that had a crush on u for months, but didnt tell anyone untill u asked her out and she said yes.

You just need to put yourself out there. think of it like climbing a mountain, you finally get one foot at the base of the mountain and start climbing. You get about 10 ft when someone pushes you back to whare u started. You just need to keep climbing.

Start going to the cool parties. Try make friends with the cool guys too. Then you can meet the girls they hang out with.

I really hope this helps you.
If you need any more help send me an email. No problem.
Thanks for sharing your problem and you will help others worldwide who have the same problem too.

Answer 4

You are SOO describing me. Here's a fact that I learned way too late...Those "hot" girls that you THINK have boyfriends...They don't. They are actually sad because nobody asks them out. Most guys think that the "hot" girls already have a boyfriend.
The secret...Have a plan...
Go buy a couple of movie gift certificates for yourself and keep an eye out for a new movie. That way, you can say "I have an extra ticket to the (whatever) movie, would you like to go?
or...
A quick question that's not too difficult to spit out...Would you like to meet for lunch some time.
or...
Roller Skating...That was my nitche.
A couple's skate would start and all it would take is a nod and I was on the floor holding the hand of a hot chick.
BTW...The rejection...It's not really a bad thing. Some girls will actually check with their friends first before they say yes.

Answer 5

you should be who you are. trying to morph into a jock is going to set you up for even more dissapointment because a girl who's interested in you for that reason alone is going to be let down when you aren't what you're representing. it's all in your head; if you let those girls think that you don't have a chance you never will, and if you think that you're not good enough you never will be. find someone who really appreaciates what you have to offer, stick with them and see how things change when you see how the girls who you don't think you're good enough for react to it. you'd be surprised; though at the same time, rather than trying to be with those girls you may want to find a way to be friends with them and see what you can learn from them. chances are if they really are that difficult they have friends that can stomach you.

rather than trying to play games and so on and so forth you should just be yourself; go with how you feel, if you want the girl just try being nice to her and pursuing a friendship and see what happens. you don't have to explicitly ask a girl out, 9 times out of 10 the way you're acting around her is going to tell on you anyway so you need to find rather casual ways of getting to the point. remember, if you're ready to hit the ceiling or are on some cloud 9 or something that isn't the best time to make that move; establish the friendship first, and then make the move once you've gotten her to open up about herself and tell you what she's all about and you're confident that you know what you're dealing with. at 17, you have a lot of time to be blunt and go for broke, but it takes a lot of confidence doing so. i've been turned down a lot, dissapointed, had my feelings hurt, so on and so forth by being blunt, though i don't regret it, it saved me a lot of time, but it's a chance that you take, and there's a lot of tact and discretion involved in doing so, then again i was in my twenties doing so. at 17 i was rather shy and uncomfortable, so i would, occassionally, stick myself out there a bit just to test the waters. never thought that i would have a serious girlfriend, then it all just came together, like i had altism or something, it get's easier, believe me. good luck!

Answer 6

For the people who tell you to be yourself are right. You shouldnt have to get a girl by being the guy she wants you to be if you have to go through all the trouble to impress a girl at least be real. I am not in high school anymore but that is how I remember it. Girls only dated guys in sports etc.You had to be part of a cliche. For the girls who turn you down forget about them they are missing out and there is a girl out there who wants a guy who is real and doesnt have to be in the shadows of others.

Answer 7

think of like this if u ask 100 girls for their phone number least one will give it, if u call 100 girls al least one will go on a date, if u date 100 girls at least one will give u kiss.....and..... a

girls like confidence just be stong
maby go for a new image, join a gym talk to people ask girls directly what they go for, hold a party and try to invite 20 women(strangers) talk to them that will build ur confidence hope this helped buddy

Answer 8

just ask a chick in ur class if they want to see a movie and leave it at that (only make sure that shes single first) dont act all flirty or something or try to make it something its not... shes not ur g/f shes just seeing a movie

(casino royale was really good for a date)

Answer 9

well, my brother and i have a different method. my method is not thinking a lot when asking a girl and watch a lot of comedy shows to b funny. my brothers is being friends with the girl first then asking her. use any 1 of these method

Answer 10

Pretend you've known her for a really long time. Just believe in yourself. The wrost she could say is no.