we were arguing then he grabbed my arm and then as i turned my head i felt a thump now he sorry but im still scared. what should i do?
2006-11-30 11:23:12 · 33 answers · asked by kisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-30 11:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Ivan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm just guessing..by your typing and word choice...you are a young lady, so let me give you some advice, your boyfriend is sick in the head, he needs help, hitting people, let alone women, is just not acceptable.
2 choices...1) let's call it the hard way, if you really love him, and can't be without him, he needs some serious help, from a professional, and, no need for you to be around until he gets that help. Tell him no more contact, phone calls, sex or anything till he starts getting help...this will not be easy and may lead to more problems down the road.
2) let's call this the easy way, maybe the smart way...run for it and never look back, your too young to waste time on a person who will abuse you. Go find another boy who isn't violent.
I guess there is a 3rd option...stay with him, get no help and one day he'll beat you to a blood pulp and maybe even kill you.
i think the 1st two choices are way better then the 3rd.
2006-11-30 11:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Doctor J. 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry that you had to go through this!
As far as I know, paedophiles and wife beaters do not change.
Do you want to spend your life with a wife beater?
Do you want to live in constant fear that it might happen again?
Can you imagine what it would do to your self esteem?
Dump him and tell the whole world why you did it!
Let him feel the pain you are going though and prevent him from doing that to other people you care about!
2006-11-30 11:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by bigblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in every relateship men and women argue,be it shoutin sayin hurtful mean insults,but did u do anythin to upset him to set him off,why did he thump you? if it was a one off,i think give him a chance.if he does it for no real reason,cos some arguements can get very aggressive between men&women.that unless u truly love and care for him,u understand and work out why he did it! but if he physically hits u every time you have a nasty arguement then you should get rid of him
2006-11-30 11:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by blondedoll00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both ways depends on if hes had some violence in the past its wrong to hit a woman but sometimes people get fustrated maybe give him another chance (but remember this event) but report it to the police just to make sure. warn him unless your treated like a human the relationship is over if he treatens to hit you or does END IT then hes probly not ganna stop becouse hes in the habbet
2006-11-30 11:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Babe ..Believe me ..I am so tempted to scream at you ! ..For Goodness sake don't take him back.! ..and also to add to that that there is NEVER ever an excuse for this type of behaviour...However when we are in love..we believe what we want to believe and see what we want to see...and I think that it won't really matter what anyone here says to you...You will do what you want to do anyway..I don't know the full details...for example..is this typical behaviour or maybe something that is a "one off " and can maybe be dealt with with some form of "anger management or counselling of some type"..Although I would like to add that its my belief that people like this who actually can be helped are "few and far between ".. YOu need to look at what you've got together!...Is it worth fighting for ...and do you truly believe that he can be helped and that this won't happen again? I am worried for you but only you know the answers to this question..Just think about it very carefully hun..And remember to go with our gut instincts ..they are usually right. best of luck but please think very carefully about this one...I wish you the best..
2006-11-30 12:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by kimknowsbest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i've been in this situation and believe me the only thing you can do is get out and never see him again. Mine used to hit, slap and punch me and if it happened during the night, claim that he was asleep when i knew fully well that he was wide awake. He then claimed to have no knowledge of it happening. He then progressed onto doing the same things during the day. I got out - you do the same PLEASE.
2006-11-30 12:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry don't cut it. Get rid of him before you end up really hurt. If he's done it once he will do it again. How many times do women accept sorry from their men who hit them. Find yourself a decent man. Good luck.
2006-11-30 11:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by evs 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if i come up to you in the street and punched you in the head would you accept this from a stranger. no u would call the police and report an assult so why put up with it from some one that "supposedly" loves you.
2006-11-30 11:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by tjtwix1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be aware that once someone starts hitting in a relationship, it does not stop, and usually gets much worse. You should not tolerate this kind of treatment - leave while you can!!!!
2006-11-30 11:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by NAN G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NOOO don't do it, hes done it once there's nothing to stop him from doing it again but it normally gets worse. My friends husband started of pushing then punching, a few years later after she had her baby he try to suffocate her. don't do mate
2006-11-30 11:30:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋