been really hurt but he swore it was me who he loved.I thought we had the "perfect relationship". He was the most romantic man I have ever met .He told me constantly that he loved me with all his heart soul essence and being..He said that he simply couldnt live without me .The only one problem that we had was his family just took a dislike to me and this made him really miserable. The family then coincidently just re-introduced the ex into his life and although he didnt seem interested at fihe admitted that he talked to her again..Initially he still swore that it was me he loved...but eventually he accepeted her as a friend. I couldnt understand this and I ended it. He cried like a baby and told me that "I was a beautiful, lovely person, that he " would never ever be good enough for me". Yet he let me go telling me that "he could never protect me from his family" A couple of weeks later he is back with her. I am broken! I always knew he was weak but I was convinced that he loved me.
2006-11-30 11:21:42 · 15 answers · asked by kimknowsbest 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would'nt worry too much if i was you even though i know you're heartbroken i bet you any money he'll be back begging for forgiveness from you very soon.I agree with the rest that he's being controlled by his family it's pathetic just look at it as a blessing in disguise that thankfully you learned his true nature this early on: that he's a spineless toe-rag.Now you can look forward to meeting a real man with a bit of backbone who will appreciate and love you and treat you as you should be treated.Goodluck hun.
2006-11-30 11:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by answer me this..... 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
he's weak, it's that simple, from that statement, all i have to say is you should pity him, he's a pushover, and she knows it and will use it. he's gonna start eating xanex or something to escape reality like a aquaintance i have, and do whatever she yells or nags about and play playstation all the time. no offense, but your better off, you don't need a kid, you need a man, not a boy who needs you to tell him what to do or eat, or wear. you follow, i have seen a man do this and he went from a real nice guy who was a generous person to a depressed sad miserable old soul who ate nerve pills to stay sane or get away from it, whatever who had a son with this girl who never had anything nice to say or was always yelling at him and demanded he make more money. Maybe you can tell him this story, try to give him a headsup, but it's more likely he wouldn't believe it till it was too late , but you can find happiness somewhere else hun, good luck
2006-11-30 19:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think this is a dilemma that you've gotta deal with... but only with your x and sit with him and discuss wuts the deal- i mean.. either he was filling your head up with complete bs by telling you that he loves you and that you basically mean the world to him- or he really does give a F*** about you- only problem is that hhe dont got a mind on his own--- in other words sweets-- find a new love-- this world is like a big pond and we are the fish-- there are others out there with families that would be more accepting and would love you even more than this childish loser-- sorry if it seems like im being harsh- ive had a few issues lately dealing with the same thing! best of luck with making up your mind and mending your heart- theres no need for broken hearts :)
2006-11-30 19:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has put his ex wife and his family before you. He may have thought he loved you, and at the time he probably meant it, but as has already been said, actions speak louder than words.
Be grateful for the happy times you did have together and try and move on. I know it hurts, you perhaps feel used, but I don't think he meant for the mess to happen. Find a man who is strong and good for you, if he really loves you, he will be.
2006-11-30 19:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Spoonraker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't like parts of this answer...
In a way you have caused this by being jealous over his ex. It was you he claimed to want to be with and you he told you he loved, yet because there is an issue with his ex and his family being sneaky behind his back you allowed yourself to be jealous and so you ended the relationship. You played right into his parents hands. Had you let him be friends with her, he might have stayed loyal to you and you stayed together, but I feel there would have been jealousy. If your ex truly wanted to be with you then he should have stayed away from her on his own decision not yours simply because of the playing aspect. I'm sure she's nice enough, but I think he would have stayed with you.
However, you ended the relationship and therefore you gave him permission to be with another person. Whether she is right for him, will hurt him again is another issue. You played the game and it has backfired and that was very silly. The fact that he says he is not good enough for you means he is feeling insecure about who he loves/wants/decisions/parents etc IMHO. I think he would have chosen you had you not split up, you simply made his decision easier. It should be his choice who he wants to be with, not his family but you naturally feel loyalty to your family. I think that they are wrong to manipulate him. If mine did that I would be very angry and they wouldn't. He should get angry with them and tell them that he has to make his own mistakes even if he appreciates they may have his interest at heart.
If this girl hurt him before it is likely again but all the time you hang on he will be with her because that actually makes them believe they want to be with each other. You have two choices I think. 1. You tell him how you feel and you were wrong and even show him my answer. You accept his decision and if he wants to be with her, that's it. If he wants to be with you, you trust who he is with, but explain that works both ways and mean it because you deserve that. He has to be responsible too. Or 2. You let him get on with it and one day you'll find someone else. You accept that his parents want to interfere and run his life and you want someone with their own mind and decisions. If they split up you won't be piggy in the middle and that's it. You let them get on with it. If you decide on 2 then it is finito. You must look after your emotions, you will meet the right person in time and you deserve better than being emotionally drained.
2006-11-30 20:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by The Mole 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he don't deserve you hon he is a punk i know it hurts but we learn from our mistakes, and believe it or not i just got off th phone with my mom concerning my brother girlfriend or was my mom and i don't like her my brother slippin away from her when yur boyfriend family don't like u it put a strain on the relationship but if he could of gone back to her that quickly that means he never stop lovin her you were juse a rebound don't mean to be mean but i am sorry but the first problem they have he will be right back to u, is up to u to take him back cause he might go again and come again until u say u had enough then it will be over good luck
2006-11-30 20:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by imjustagirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i pitty u!!!yes it does hurt i have been there.He probably was never over her in the first place.He probably didnt tell u that though.U will get over him in time and u know wat they say if he comes back he was yours and if he doesnt he never was.So give it time my friend u never know he might come back but dont count on it.It will just take time to mend a broken heart.i know there are some guys who always say the right thing and say everything u wanna hear he probably was a real romancer and it will e harder to get over those ones even more but then again who knows,he might of said that to all the girls!!just remember if u got him u will always get someone else!!!
2006-11-30 19:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by And life goes on 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's right...he'll never be good enough for you!
You are SO lucky to have found this out now. He's more into doing as he's told from his family than being a man on his own. He's a "YES" man, no doubt.
He was also right to have told you that he couldn't protect you from his family. (Listen to what he's telling you...HE is probably afraid of them, too!)
He is a weak, controlled human being. Thank goodness you aren't shackled to him.
2006-11-30 19:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OMFG The SAME exact thing happend with me. I beleive that your ex and mine both meant it when they said I love you and all that ... at the time. But now times have changed, just cause they don't feel the same now doesnt mean it was ALL lies back then. Don't let him break your heart. Leave him and his retarded ex to themselves.
2006-11-30 19:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this but it sounds like he was taking his affections he has for his ex and putting them towards you those are how he feels about her not you. Because if he really felt that way he still be with you.
2006-11-30 19:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by kate86 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋