Help im ok talkin to people but not at the point were i want to be,i hate going to school because i can't talk to no one,.no girls talk to me and i have trouble talking to them i don't know the true reason why i feel mad lonely and sad(depressed and stuff).i don't know wat to do im turnin 18 dec 3
2006-11-30 11:19:55 · 10 answers · asked by flyd.rpap1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you'd like a good conversation starter with minimal effort from you, start wearing funny t-shirts.. really funny ones. People will open up to you and you won't have to say a word. Making others laugh is the best way to make yourself laugh.
This is not to say that you shouldn't give communication a shot. Most people feel just as insecure as you do even though they hide it well.
I can assure you.. this will all pass.
Good luck!
2006-11-30 11:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a lot like you. I HATED highschool because i had NO friends. I would often go through the whole day with only saying a few words. I was also very depressed. But it sounds like you are going to be out of highschool soon. So just focus on doing what you love, and focus on your hobbies. And you will be out soon. I can tell you that once i graduated highschool everything got a lot better. I met all kinda of new people, and i became a lot more confident in myself, and i eventually started talking to people more and more. The best years of your life are yet to come. I hope things get better soon. Good Luck!
2006-11-30 19:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy, man. You're probably just going through a funk. Keep your confidence in yourself and lay low for a while. Do some reading, relaxing, spend time with family. Give yourself some time to come across some new people just being the flow of things.
All it takes is meeting just one or two people you relate to, then you'll meet their friends too - including friends who are chicks. But you can't force these things. Do your thing, be yourself, and let it happen.
2006-11-30 19:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by monkeyandmolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a self-esteem issue. Either that or you're suffering from the holiday blues. If it's just the Christmas season, it'll pass. If it's a deeper problem, it would be wise to speak with a counselor. No one should go it alone when they're feeling lonely and depressed. Been there myself and it ain't fun. Hang tough.
2006-11-30 19:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by Hemingway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Good grief. You're only 18, what's the rush. A lot of girls these days are choosing to stay single for the sake of their personal life and careers. They'll be looking for mates by the time they're 26, so be patient, kiddo.
2006-11-30 19:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by bansri47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon and happy belated B.D. What u are experienceing is okay...It will get better.My son is taking college classes and it is so different from H.S. You can always practice what u would say to the girls.My son practiced to where he has it down pat.Plus a gf now.Good luck hon.Practice makes perfect.Do it in the mirror so u can see how u look.Really it works and gives u confidence.
2006-11-30 19:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Happy early 18th b-day you are very young so do not beat yourself up get some confidence start saying Hi to people at least and go from there its going to all work out HUGS
2006-11-30 19:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would like to talk to you as if you were my son.
You are perfectly normal and have nothing to worry about because you are young and still developing.
trust me, you will grow internally over time.
when i was your age, i felt the same the way and maybe worst.
as i got older and learned more about myself and people, i developed into a charming guy who know how to talk to women and make them laugh and everything just falls into place.
You will be okay over time trust me son.
2006-11-30 19:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by Big P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happy 18th birthday! try finding yourself first...
think of a style you like and imitate it...but put your own flair into it more and more with time
you should be starting college soon i hope?
great opprotunity to start a new
i was similar to you at one point...because i was ugly and kids made fun of me and even adults!!! etc and i was really shy and easy to take advantage of...
but i had some friends...
and one gave me a makeover...
go to get your hair cut
get a hot wardrobe
like...post on her the kind of girl you are attracted to(for example:smart, cute, nice, loving) or i dunno and ask what kind of guys they go for as far as looks...
looks will not only help draw people to you and make people treat you better, but help you develop selfconfidence:)
next, think of a group of people you envy and what talents are considered cool in that group...like...learn to surf, skateboard, draw, cook, guitar, bass...learn a lot of stuff...become really talented at one or two things...take classes*¨trust me*i did for guitar and art etc(my main talents)and people are drawn to me just for those talents...and looks add on...
start shaving, doing your hair, wearing cool clothes and stuff all at the same time learning some kind/s of skills and when you start college, people will be drawn to you and if you are nice and at least answer them and smile, soon it will come more and more easily to you,
trust me,
best of luck,
happy birthday!!!
xaoooo:D
2006-11-30 19:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was like you freshmen year, come out of your shy shell, trust me, dont think what anyone thinks of you, that is how you get girls and friends. find people who like the same stuff as you, dont do anything you dont like either, so ya if u have to let the friends find you. but dont be shy i swear to god it works
2006-11-30 19:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋